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does anyone really think their ds/ dd is not " bright"

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cod Mon 04-Apr-05 20:19:28

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nutcracker Mon 04-Apr-05 20:20:55

Erm well I wouldn't class Dd2 as academically bright no, but would say she has a whole lot more common sense than Dd1 who is very bright.

cod Mon 04-Apr-05 20:21:22

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lockets Mon 04-Apr-05 20:25:53

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happymerryberries Mon 04-Apr-05 20:28:10

DS isn't interested in formal learning but to be fair he is only 5. I wouldn't be surprised if he found schooling hard but I love him to bits and he is a very happy little spud. His teachers think he is great too!

happymerryberries Mon 04-Apr-05 20:28:14

DS isn't interested in formal learning but to be fair he is only 5. I wouldn't be surprised if he found schooling hard but I love him to bits and he is a very happy little spud. His teachers think he is great too!

iota Mon 04-Apr-05 20:37:15

mine's bright - takes after his mum she says modestly

piffle Mon 04-Apr-05 20:56:32

as nutty said, my dd (2) shows every sign of being a slower than DS was but (he's fairly brilliant academically speaking) but a bloody nighmare to live with, disorganised, messy, forgetful
Whereas dd is fastidious at age 2! Bit early to assess her fairly, she is a stunning child to be around and I may never even let her go to school as I would miss her too much!

blossom2 Mon 04-Apr-05 21:32:58

too early to say really. dd (3 yrs) was certainly slower at speaking compared to her peers but is more independent, self-sufficient and quicker to pick things up. She also walked sooner than her peers and is much more dextrous/flexible/gymnastic than her peers ....

don't really care if she is academically clever!! just want her to be happy and have some ambition in whatever she wants to do ....

Kaz33 Mon 04-Apr-05 21:35:25


expatinscotland Mon 04-Apr-05 21:38:31

Too soon to tell. Took me till my mid-30s to blossom, and DD has a very laid-back nature. To be content with who you are in life is the brightest blessing a person can get.

sparklymieow Mon 04-Apr-05 21:45:35

I know my DD1 isn't bright and she is going to find yr1 so hard, but she loves life and is funny and a joy to be with... (tho, she can be a little cow most of the time)

ok Mon 04-Apr-05 21:52:36

This suggestion is ...gasp...heresy

mummytosteven Mon 04-Apr-05 21:53:38

heaven only knows since DS is only 1!

jjash Mon 04-Apr-05 21:53:59

My two are so different- how do you tell who is brighter ? My 5 year old ds is very physical and great at sports yet my two year old draws almost as good as him.Who knows what they will be .I was a late reader as a kid but went on to study literature at uni.
My ds wants to be a taxi driver he says anyway dd thinks she is dora the explorer.

mummylonglegs Mon 04-Apr-05 21:58:45

Not sure it's 'rose tinted specs' or just love which makes us see the best in our kids. I think most people are fairly realistic though - proud of the things they're good at and not too bothered at the things they're a bit slower with.

MrsMedders Tue 05-Apr-05 11:10:48

My Ds is 1 and seems far more interested in the physical development side, he doesn't really try and speak much but will look at books (when he is exhausted by all that running around!). My mother is full of stories about how myself and my brother had wonderful speech so early on and this can make me feel bad for my son sometimes. But to be honest, I gaze in wonderment at anything new he does and think he is so amazing, I also remember how my Mom's pressure and high expectations made me feel so bad during my childhood/teenage years. All babies and children are so different and have different stages at which they blossom. My friends older brother didn't read until he was about 10, was treated as a remedial and now has a PHD!

mummytosteven Tue 05-Apr-05 11:11:54

snap Mrs Medders, to the granny nagging about speech development! my mum is convinced that DS is behind/something wrong however hard I try to tell her that his development is age appropriate!

happymerryberries Tue 05-Apr-05 11:15:28

Ds is far more physical adept than his older sister, she on the other hand is the verbal/raeading/ craft type. I was amazed at how steriotyped my kids are. Dd was (and still is) very advanced in her language skills. ds had problems and is still on the slower side of 'normal' IYSWIM

MrsMedders Tue 05-Apr-05 11:26:30

When we mix with other children the girls tend to be happy to sit and play and "chatter" to each other whilst the boys race around! It is wierd how gender defines children even at this early age....

Bozza Tue 05-Apr-05 11:56:51

TBH I think DS's strengths will be academic. He's not very agile or physically confident. However although he does seem to genuinely love learning I'm not sure how much of this is just the average natural curiosity of a pre-schooler. One thing I am certain of is that he will be a bookworm. He loves books and stories and is definitely interested in learning to read. His favourite game is to take a word and decide what other word it would be by changing the initial letter so rhymes. So "if mummy started with a t what would it be" and he works it out himself. He thinks thats hilarious. But shows much less interest in learning to write - they do it at nursery and I get him to put his name in birthday cards.

DD is 10 months so not sure about her yet.

dinosaur Tue 05-Apr-05 12:00:25

So what about you cod? Are the codsters bright?

fisil Tue 05-Apr-05 12:02:45

ds insists on reading Tolstoy, Mann, etc. in English translation, so I guess no, he isn't bright. Maybe he will be more interested when he's 3.

dinosaur Tue 05-Apr-05 12:03:21

LOL at fisil!

snafu Tue 05-Apr-05 12:05:54

What is it about grandmothers and speech development? My mother drives me up the wall, going on and on about ds's speech 'not being up to scratch' etc. FFS - he's not even two yet I shall actually be rather sad when he loses his baby babble - she just keeps asking him when he's going to start 'talking properly'. Grrrr.

But, in spite of all that, he is quite clearly a genius.

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