ds nearly 4 crying alot

[aideesmum]

My ds will be 4 next month and for the last couple of days he will cry at the slightest thing, especially if I tell him he can't do something.
It is not like him at all. Do you think he is playing me for attention or something else might be behind it?
I work 5 days a week so he is in nursery - he said he is happy there and he does have lots of friends.

[PuzzleRocks]

Bumping for you.

[aideesmum]

Anyone?

[mynewnickname]

Sorry you didn't get any replies with advice so far.

Yes tbh I think he is 'playing you' but it's very normal at this age.
I think you could tell him that you can't understand him when he cries and that he'd be better talking to you. I tell him that he won't get what he wants by crying but he has more chance if he talks to me (although note the wording as I have made it clear that this doesn't mean he will get what he wants - depends what it is!) This helps me tell whether he's putting it on or not - if he is, invariably he stops crying and talks.

[NKffffffffdee25221X11da71c7829]

Sorry for delay responding. Sounds like something could be upsetting him...Could anything have happened recently- maybe at nursery?

They do go through funny little phases though, (and maybe by now he's feeling better). Maybe just an insecure phase? I hope its resolving anyway...

[Littlefish]

Perhaps he's coming down with something. Dd does this when she's about to get ill.

[bodiddly]

My ds is the same age as yours and has had a few episodes like this recently. He is also at nursery full time and generally a very happy lad. It usually happens when he is over-tired - I think they are so active at this age and getting them to just chill out during the day is nigh on impossible in a nursery environment. I have always been quite strict with ds but have started saying that if he doesn't calm down, stop crying and tell me what the problem is (and that it is anything more serious than him not getting his own way) then I tell him I don't want him in the same room as me all the while he is crying and making such an awful noise. It usually works as he calms himself down after a few minutes and then comes in to apologise. I am sure it comes down to tiredness and an inability to handle his reactions and not a bloody mindedness at trying to get his own way. It would probably be easier to distract him away from the melt downs but to be honest I think at times it is better to let him go through it and then realise that he isn't going to get his own way! Sorry this is sooooo long!

[pscc]

this happened to my nephew- and it turned out that another boy in his class was being bullied (or picked on- whatever is pc these days!) and he got very upset because of it.
not sure if this is whats happening with your ds- but might be worth asking him!
good luck