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My 8 year old is so unhappy...

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blueheather Tue 16-Dec-08 23:20:51

My 8 yr old DD is a lovely little girl but has some issues that I would appreciate mumsnetters help with!
1) Seems to have a very low self esteem
2) Has no friends at school
3) Is unhappy a lot and very negative. (her best and only friend left to go to another school 6 months ago and she is suffering because of it)
4) Now answers back and shouts alot, storms about

I worry she does get sidelined by me perhaps because she has always been so good (my 4 yr old DD, is the opposite)but her lack of friends and she can't say anything good about herself is a worry. How can I boost her self esteem and get her to have the confidence to deal with things generally?

Could shouting alot won;t help, but she says the problem is he friend leaving.
any help appreciated!

bubbles4 Tue 16-Dec-08 23:24:25

sounds a lot like my dd was until i made the decision to move her to a new school and now she is a different child,i know this might be a bit extreme for you but could you get some help from the school,maybe see her teacher and explain how she is feeling,she may have some suggestions.

blueheather Tue 16-Dec-08 23:29:42

Wish I could move her to the school her friend is at, but it just won't work. School is only over the road. Teacher is aware and says she is grieving almost.

bubbles4 Tue 16-Dec-08 23:32:29

another thing i found that helped was girly days just for me and her,we go shopping together and both go to the hairdressers,it makes her feel special

dizzyjingles Tue 16-Dec-08 23:35:22

I went into a state of grief in primary 4 when my best friend was moved to Wales, we're in scotland.

my mother was apparently distraught as it was as if a black cloud had descended on me apparently

they bought me a dog grin

am not saying thats your answer but just to let you know that there will be light at the end of the tunnel and the fact she has a mother who cares enough to notice and want to fix it is a really good start

blueheather Wed 17-Dec-08 22:49:04

Thanks for that - very kind words. Have a 7 dog ta!grin

Will make an effort to do stuff with her more - thanks!

Maths tutor also giving me tips - very helpful!

bigdonna Mon 22-Dec-08 13:15:43

my dd best friend left in yr3.she doesnt make friends very easilt either but has now made two good friends.we also have her best friend in dorset to come and stay every holiday.i try to invite different girls from school to play as she used to come home and say she had no one to play with she also stopped eating lunch when her friend moved as she used to wait for her in cafeteria.shes 9 now still will only eatone mouthful .hope shes happier soon.

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