he won't listen or copy me just shouts 'I'll do it' then just does a line or a Triangle for A. I then try and show him when he goes wrong and says 'I can't do it' without trying. I don't want to be a pushy mum but how can I help him do what he wants to do. He can sing the Alphabet song but gets JKL wrong. I'm mildly dyslexic and real want him to enjoy learning and not cry when it all get to much
have you tried dotty fonts? There is a handwriting one with lines that can be traced over. If he wants to try and write it you aren't pushing him, and it is quite common for them not to want you to show them how (I remember doing it myself. and both of mine do).
Sounds like a typical 4 year old. My DD was like this, now I get my own pen and sit next to her and write her name for her to copy on my own paper, this is much better than trying to take pen from her and show her.
The dot to dot idea works well.
Dont worry about the alphabet song either, he will pick up the correct way as he goes along. My DD thinks LMNOP is one letter I dont correct her but try to sing the song with her and say it slowly for her to hear.
Thank you all for the dot-to-dot ideas. I'm trying to be relaxed but don't want to be soooo relax that it might seem like I don't care. I'll try the dots, as if is a game. BoysarelikeZombies, thank you for the suggestions. I'm proud to say he can dress himself, put the recycling out and lay the table. We are also working on wiping your bum with out major smears. Will will now add opening sandwich box. Thanks again I love getting practical tips
Wingandprayer my gran got me the old style book version of this when I was about 6-7 years old. She taught me how to form my letters in those joined up lines. Funny thinking about it now my spelling is appalling but my handwriting is lovely. Thanks for the website.
Maybe he just isn't ready yet? I have a 4 year old too and recently he has started to want to do these things but not earlier this year. Their attention spans are extremely short at that age and IMO the worst thing you could do is let learning be something which isn't fun (because they've got a lot of years when they will have to do it and it will be so much easier for them if they like it at least at first).
In much of the rest of Europe, educationalists and child psychologists would say that it is unnatural to teach a child so young. I don't especially agree with them, but I do think it should wait until the individual child is ready.