Hm as someone whose father gave away her much loved toys when she was far too young, I would have to say no, dont do it. Other people will be giving toys to the refuge but let him do it when he is ready.
You can raise the subject again without actually asking him for the toys, he may well volunteer them on his own.
Wow, fast responses thanks. It think you're confirming what I thought, I can't do it, he would be sad and although he seems older, he is only 6 FGS. Its not like I am taking them all away as he still has about 7 floating round on his bed.
They were on top of the wardrobe but I washed them and now they look all shiny and new.
I even tried the, 'there won't be room for santa to leave any more presents' type route but it didn't work.
I like to keep on top of things and have a clear out regularly too. The only problem I have found is that having kept things out of sight on top of the wardrobe etc it is when I have eventually got rid of the things they always say "wheres my....it was here last time I looked"!
I've instigated a 'one in, one out' rule in our house as DD will insist on spending her weekly £1 on as many charity shop fluffy toys (or hideous Barbies) as she can lay her hands on. She is 5 and I have already had to do the same for ramdom boxes and aged conkers/acorns - it may be an ongoing problem, ho hum!
My DS is six, too, and if he thinks I'm going to give anything away, it suddenly becomes his all-time favourite toy (a mouldy Teletubby? Yeah, right). The fact that they were going to a good cause wouldn't cut any ice with him, sadly.
When my DCs were at school the other week, I went down to the cellar and filled two bin-bags with toys that have been down there since we tried to move house two years ago. If they'd known what I was up to, all hell would have broken loose!
I have just excavated under DS's bed today, and have thrown another heap of stuff in the bin (bits of aeroplanes, useless drinking straws etc - which, again, he would have begged me to keep...)
I'd go for the stealth method. Take some of his cuddly toys (the ones you know he's not really bothered about) and bag them up. If he's not asked after a year or so, give them away then!!
I have two big bags of the things belonging to my DD (though I'm the wimp who can't bear to throw them away !)