Should I ask this little boys Mum if he'd like to come and play with my Daughter ??

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, we live in an area where there arn't many children around. It's mostly older people or people with much older children.
My daughter is 3.5 and loves the company of other children. There is a little boy who lives at the back of our house who's a year older than our daughter. During the summer lollidays, when we were out in the garden my daughter could hear him playing and kept calling over "hello, little boy". He didn't hear her though.
Do you think we should ask his Mum wether he'd like to come around to play?
My Husband chats to the boys Dad, but I don't know his Mum at all.
I just thought, there's a good chance they'll be going to the same school, and it'd be nice for her to make a little friend close by. That way she'd know someone at school before she starts.
I'm quite shy though so don't know wether I should ask or not. I also wonder wether a little 4.5 year old boy would want to play with a 3.5 year old girl.
What would you think if someone who lives very close to you, that you'd never met asked if your child wanted to come and play? Is it the done thing or not.
Please be honest as I don't want to make a prat of myself.

[monkeymonkeymonkey]

I think this would be OK.

[CharleeInChains]

I would be really chuffed if someone came and asked me if the ds's would like to play with thier children as i to am shy so find it hard to socialise and i fear the ds's will be the same.

[Cheeseandseveredfingersarnie]

you wont know till you ask!

[mellyonion]

ask the mum if she'd like to bring him round to play and her stay for a coffee.... do it very casually....i'm sure she'd be happy to have the invitation....

you have absolutly nothing to lose at all, and a new friend to gain! if she turns down your offrer, you'll be no worse off....think of it as her loss!

good luck!

[mummyloveslucy]

Thanks, I didn't want her to think who on earth is this strange woman wanting to take my son away.

[blueskyandsunshine]

I think it would be ok too, but don't worry if she says no. She might want to stay for a bit to check you out ! but no, we did this with a girl at the back of our house.

The ONLY thing, is that if it does grow into a nice little friendship, you need for both mums to understand that just because it's handy it's not anytime. If you know what I mean. Sorry to intro a sour note. Sounds like a nice idea to me.