Excuse this rather long-winded message, but I am in an absolute pickle!
First of all, I live abroad and my husband - due to world financial collapse (!) - has to work all hours, so if this message sounds a bit melodramatic it's because I haven't slept since Monday. Oh for a Mum or a sister nearby...
I have a gorgeous daughter who is now 2 1/2 weeks old. She has always, from day one, been a bit fractious and cried a lot (I have no frame of reference, but the midwives in the hospital said that it was "a lot").
What I would LOVE is a few hints on how to deal with my issues (below), but most of all reassurance that I am not the only one who is/has experienced them (or SHE is not the only one!) as I feel extremely isolated here with no family support or help! I am desperately worried that I am doing it all wrong. I have tried reading various childcare books, but the advice seems all conflicting and I don't seem to be able to get HER to read them!!!!! It's all very well not feeding her too often...but what if she screams?? I feel so horrible trying to make her last longer between feeds!
Right! The issues are:
- her poo has gone from mustard colour to greeny mustard colour. Is this normal? All the books say yellow...nothing about army green!!!
- she totally WILL NOT SLEEP in the night. Particularly between 2 and 7am. This is obviously quite exhausting for both of us, but what worries me is that she kicks and punches and looks like she is in awful pain during this time. She doesn't sleep well during the day either, but this time in the early morning she is particularly fractious.
- I can't get her to settle on her own at all. She only falls asleep if I am lying down with her and she is feeding. Sometimes!
Once again, apologies for long message but I am at my wits' end and so worried that I am doing something wrong and that she is deeply unhappy.