ok, this could go in AIBU.
I have been told I am being ridiculous in my views. so here goes...
DD, aged 2.3. Never had a dummy. when she was newborn she went through a phase of crying between 6-11pm, DH wanted her to have a dummy, I did not. I gave in. DD did not want the dummy anyway. So I got my way. DH was a bit sad, he found it 'cute'.
Anyway. At nursery, some of the babies have dummies. DD now has a baby doll at home with a dummy, she loves it, puts it in her mouth pretending to be a baby at nursery. It has a spike as for a doll so I removed it from her.
Anyway. She is obsessed with it/dummies.
So. DH said, why don't we get her one? ensues a long debate/disagreement about how she should/should not have one. My view being most people are trying to stop their children using a dummy at this age, not starting on them...i got very stroppy about it I am afraid to say. I was livid at the thought we could create a problem.
She is waking early, wants milk at night, lots of it. I did not want her to develop another 'comfort'.
DH calls me at work after a 'think', after she finds her baby's dummy. Asked what I thought about getting DD one as a toy, you know just for fun, we decide when she gets it, etc etc. I disagree with a passion. At work.
Thinking for a while. I call a lot of the shots, and sometimes I am wrong. And I don't want DH to think I dictate how it goes, so I call him back and say ok, try it, your call, only for fun, NEVER to passify. Agreed.
He buys it. In the car, gives it to her, she is very pleased. Has no idea what to do with it, but pretends to be a baby.
Dinner time. She won't take it out. We took it off her, she screamed the place down 'my dummy' 'my dummy' my dummy'.
Same at bedtime. DH puts her to bed acknowledging he did this so he can deal with it.
This morning 5:30am. for 1.5 hours cries 'my dummy my dummy my dummy'. DH gets up, and get the dummy and says to her 'if you stop crying, you can have the dummy'. .
So, I went berserk, I was FURIOUS that he would give it to her as she had cried for it, when it was not meant to be for this.
She cried for 2 hours, and DH had to take it away and get rid of them.
I think really I just needed to get it out.
I would prefer I was told my DH is being a total arse, but if I am wrong, please tell me, so I can understand why I might be being 'ridiculous' in all of this?
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PavlovtheWitchesCat · 09/10/2008 21:46
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