I am going completely insane. We have a small house and if they fight then it just puts EVERYONE in a terrible mood.
Not having grown up with siblings, I find it really hard to instinctively know how to deal with it. I have the book Sibling Rivalry (by the How To Talk people) but it just doesn't seem to help.
My biggest struggle is to know how and when to intervene. And how to do it in a way that one child seems favoured over the other. My eldest in particular is becoming very manipulative and vindictive towards ds2 - will cut off his own nose if it will spite his younger brother. Ds2 is getting very good at responding physically to this and most mornings it just feels like I'm living in a battleground.
When I do intervene I try and send them to separate places but we have a small house and it's hard to separate them without one feeling more favoured than another - sent to their rooms, the walls are thin and they can carry on arguing and getting wound up. Send one upstairs then the one downstairs feels like their side has been vindicated as they're closer to mum or dad.
The heartbreaking thing is that, before this summer, they always got on really well together (they are 7 and 4) so all this animosity has taken me completely by surprise.
I know I need to be more consistent. I know they need to learn to deal with their own conflicts. I'd like some strategies to stay sane and them not to kill each other in the process.
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I was an only child - help me learn how to deal with my sons when they fight
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RubberDuck · 09/10/2008 10:42
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