My son is a lovely lad but he is so laid back he is nearly horizontal.The teachers have also said he is too laid back!!Today he announced at the last minute he has lost his bus pass and needed £5 for a replacement. Wouldnt mind but it is not the first time. He has lost 3 mobile phones,his wallet in town and one shoe at school! How do you lose one shoe???He had swimming yesterday and didnt take a towel![durr?] He leaves all his homework to the last minute and it drives me up the wall as he couldnt be more different from me.In some ways I admire his relaxed attitude but tell me, will he ever improve?
Yes he will improve. But possibly not for another 15 years! Sorry! What happens when he loses something he really needs? Do you bail him out - i.e. replace or find for him? I'm not saying if he had to face all the consequences he'd learn to be more careful, I don't know if he would - just wondered how you handle it.
I dont always bail him out but he doesnt seem to learn. He often misses the school bus too and I make him use his pocket money for the bus fare. He will have no pocket money this week to pay for the replacement bus pass. I did bail him out when he lost the shoe as he had to have some for school and got into trouble for wearing his trainers. It makes me laugh now thinking about him but at the time I think Oh no not AGAIN!! He has gone back to using an old mobile phone he had in his drawer as he says he only wants it to listen to music anyway.[not bothered,see]He decided to dye his hair at a mates and his shorts were ruined with spillages but again his attitude,"oh,it doesnt matter, Mum"!!What will I do with him??
Maybe you just have to put up with it as you are doing, replace when essential but make sure he contributes, let him suffer the consequences most of the time ... seems to be a feature of teenage boys' (especially) make-up, try not to get too wound-up about it. Easier said than done, I know!
What will I do with him, or her, lol. My DD13 is exactly the same - lovely girl, but so dreamy - has lost loads of uniform/PE kit/phones/bus tickets/lunch/trainers. Wish she had lost all of these only once! Thought I had the answer - make her pay for them. Response is a vague - "Yeah OK", followed by an offer to forego pocket money for X weeks in lieu. This privation is then endured with NO COMPLAINT. I hope she does well at school as I am sure she will (bright girl) but what the hell am I going to do when she is at University?!
Hehe teafortwo - yes, you're probably right - just because our teenagers aren't the switched-on organised people we would like them to be, they are great - they are themselves and we should celebrate what they are instead of complaining about what they aren't!
"Why does my 15yr old DS lose EVERYTHING???!!!" Quite simply because he's a 15 year old DS and couldn't care less if he's anything like ours. We have started making DS pay for things he loses. Not sure whether it's working yet...
Thanks for all your comments. LuLu, yes you are right he is not very materialistic, which is nice. When I take him for new clothes it is usually me encouraging him and I know if he wants someting he genuinely needs it. Love him really...