Over the past week or so he has said one or two things that made me wince slightly but I thought I might have been being an over-anxious white liberal, but tonight he said that a visitor to the house was a 'monster' and when I asked why he said 'Because she's got a black face'. We have had a Little Talk about how people have different coloured faces. I have reminded him of all the people he knows and likes who have black or brown faces. I have told him that it is not nice to say that people who have black or brown faces are smelly, or monsters. And I am trying to track where he is getting this stuff from. It seems to be another child in his nursery (which is not all-white by any means). Please advise me on what to do next.
My instinct would be not to make too much of it with him, beyond what you have done i.e your Little Talk. Otherwise it may risk him doing it for attention (which is what it really is rather than racism.) Keep it low key with him if he does it again.
Yes be careful not to make too much of it. Obviously speak to him about it, but as with swearing, if they get the idea its Very Bad Indeed then it can make it worse.
Could you maybe raise the issue with the staff at nursery - not as an accusation towards another child but as a general concern that he was hearing these views. They will probably be very supportive and do work with the group (ie stories, circle times) about tolerance etc.
Not really helpful but interesting anyway - my mum tells me that when I was 5 ish, a litlle girl from school came to play. On seeing my black dolly, she announced "My dad hates black people". To which my mum smiled and said "Well, we don't". Anyway, I don't even remember it now, possibly because it was handled very calmly.
Yes I think I will have a little non-heavy word with nursery. He did say (and I was keeping the conversation very light and non-fussed) that a particular child 'doesn't like people with black faces'. SO it's possible that the nursery are already aware...