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Thinking of placing dd into SS care..at wits end...pls help

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crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 19:57:25

sad

differentID Thu 28-Aug-08 19:58:55

What's been happening?

cornsilk Thu 28-Aug-08 19:59:15

why?

IAteDavinaForDinner Thu 28-Aug-08 19:59:59

Oh dear ... what's the story?

crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 20:00:42

i am sitting here crying atm...she is 14, abusive, violent, she kicked me about an hour ago..this has been going on for 2 years

1dilemma Thu 28-Aug-08 20:07:55

Have you tried custy?

a wise mumsnetter with (what appears to me wiht my preschoolers!) many a good piece of advice for wayward teenagers.

LackaDAISYcal Thu 28-Aug-08 20:09:36

oh dear sad

surely there is something else that can be done before taking this sort of drastic action?

crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 20:10:38

Thx

sarah293 Thu 28-Aug-08 20:11:01

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MrsMattie Thu 28-Aug-08 20:11:22

Oh sad@crispyduck

My sister was like this at one stage. My mum was a single parent and it was incredibly hard for her. Have you got any help or anyone to confide in at all? Where is her dad? Have you got any relatives or friends to support you? Have you got a social worker? You shouldn't have to deal with this alone...sad

crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 20:12:20

i have tried everything from anger managment to family support workers....nothing helps with her

lovemyshoes Thu 28-Aug-08 20:13:29

I definately think Custy is the way to go, she knows her stuff. Try and get advice from her.

MrsMattie Thu 28-Aug-08 20:14:20

Is there anyone else she can stay with for a while - a responsible aunt/uncle/family friend? To give you both some breathing space? Sometimes very difficult teenagers act up with certain people and are good as gold with others.

And do you know where this anger is coming from? Why is she so unhappy?

Really sympathise with you sad

IAteDavinaForDinner Thu 28-Aug-08 20:14:29

I second the custardo suggestion, I've seen her give some great advice.

Where is she?

I am sorry you're having such a hard time

Janni Thu 28-Aug-08 20:17:24

So sorry, Crispyduck. Have you tried calling Parentline to talk it all through?
How is your daughter at school? Are there any teachers or youth workers who could mediate between you and her to try to get to the bottom of why she's so angry and why she feels she can take it out on you?

Where's her father?

crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 20:18:19

She was carted off in a police car 6 weeks or so ago...she violently attacked me while i had a fractured foot..2 days earlier i had a miscarriage
the police cautioned dd...she then went to live at her grandparents came back 2 weeks ago and it is going back to the way it was

crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 20:20:08

her father lives abroad..she has very little contact with him

cornsilk Thu 28-Aug-08 20:21:06

What do school say?

MrsMattie Thu 28-Aug-08 20:21:17

Does she have some sort of mental health problems?@crispy

(sorry, I don't mean to be offensive, but violently attacking your mum after she has had a m/c is pretty terrible behaviour).

crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 20:23:57

SS got involved...and basically were no help
i suggested mental health referral but they werent interested

littleducks Thu 28-Aug-08 20:24:04

do you know what the root of the problem is?
is she (or do you suspect she is) taking drugs?

(i dont want to offend btw, just alot of kids of her age do at some schools near here and it causes terrible problems behaviourly)

do you have other children?

and really hope things get better for you the mc and foot sound tough enough without a troubled teen

crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 20:27:05

no prob..i am not offended by anyones opinion or suggestionssmile

crispyduck Thu 28-Aug-08 20:31:25

i have 2 other children...13 and 3...both boys

Romy7 Thu 28-Aug-08 20:33:46

no CAHMS referral? shock
visit gp and get one?

Romy7 Thu 28-Aug-08 20:34:09

CAMHS...

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