I could really do with some advice re ds who is 9, nearly 10. He's always been a very full-on, high maintenance child but lovely with it. I also have dd1 aged 7 and dd2 aged 5.
In the last 6 months to a year, every time we see other children, it always follows the same pattern - ds totally overexcited and me telling him to calm down, followed by everyone playing OK (although ds wanting to control everything/wanting everything his way/wanting to win) until something happens and he kicks off. He'll then take himself off (a strategy I suggested when he was about 7 and which used to work well - he would then calm down, take a deep breath and come back to play) but nowadays, he cannot seem to break out of it and the other children end up looking totally bemused.
Today we had some other children visiting who he loves and the same thing happened. I'm seriously worried this need to control everything and kicking off when he can't (and then not being able to calm down afterwards), coupled with being sullen, moody and pretty rude when kicking off, is going to result in him having few friends who will stick with him. I've just realised that no friends have phoned or called for him all holidays .
I'm desperate for help and advice - I realise that I have no doubt contributed to this behaviour but I really need advice as to how to make changes in the future .
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I've hit an all time low with ds aged 9 - please help
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sinkingfast · 25/08/2008 19:54
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