I am divorced from my dd (3yrs 6mts) father and am now living with my partner and most of the time we have a very happy life, dd is lively, funny and challenging and I would not want her any way.
That is until she has had any time with her dad. When she has two I let her stay with her Dad for a fortnight and when she was returned she clung to me and sobbed for about an hour. For a few months she was very unsettled and prone to tantrums. I managed to calm things down so she was only being like this the evening and morning after seeing her father.
Over the Christmas 2004/5 her Dad started being irregular in his access and all the tantrums, wetting herself and clinginess started again and I was even called into her preschool as they were concerened.
My dp and I hve worked really hard with her I have attended parenting classes and we have been using reward systems, time out and lots of love and praise and we really turned a corner with her. But then she went to spend a weekend with her dad and she has come back worse than ever. Yesterday she had five tantrums, each lasting around half an hour and ending with her wetting herslef and sobbing uncontrollably. She shouts at me all the time, smacks me throws things at me and is constantly whining or crying.
What would you do? Would you seek outside help? A health visitor - do they still work with kids this age? A doctor? Or would you just say she is upset at not living with her dad and we ahve to ride the storm?
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nikkim · 17/02/2005 08:50
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