Oh sorry,thanx 4 the replys.He is 5.Everytime i get him to bed he just won't stay there n starts hitting etc.Its turning into a nightmare,feel like we haven't had a good bedtime in ages and don't know why hes started doing this all of a sudden.
OK, so he's used to being in a bed. Perhaps he is just not tired at bedtime. My DS is five and can survive on less sleep in the holidays because playing with his little sister isn't as challenging on his brain as what his does at school. So he has a later bed time in the holidays.
He wants to control the situation. So you need to take control back.
Tell him before bedtime that tonight you and he are going to have a nice bedtime. Ask him what a nice bedtime is (hopefully he will say something along the lines of Happy Mummy, no fighting, no shouting etc) Agree with him your expectations; he will go to bed and stay there. If he stays in bed then he gets a treat in the morning.
If he gets out of bed, he is testing you and seeing whether you will react to his behaviour. DONT just take him back to bed. Dont talk to him or look at him. You may need to repeat this 100 times (sorry!) but he will get the message.
When we have this problem (as we seem to periodically do) we do everything nell12 said. Calm consistency seems to be the key with ours. DD feeds off any attention positive or negative so we have to patiently keep returning her to her bed with no talking or eye contact (she is 3.5). It is hard work but it works in the end. Good luck
I would try to give him more control, especially as its the holidays. I'd ask him why he doesn't want to go to bed. Maybe he wants to stay up half an hour, maybe he would like to play Connect 4 one more time with me, maybe he wants to play in his room a bit. All of these things would be fine with me unless he seemed really tired eg he was having a meltdown every two minutes. DS usually has a good reason for not wanting to go to bed right away. Sometimes he wants to watch a feature length film at 7.30 pm so if the request was unreasonable I would suggest an acceptable alternative eg watch his favourite scene then go to bed.
Yes, at 2 even if they are very verbal they might not be able to express why they don't want to do something. A 5 yr old should be able to. It may not be that he is not tired. There may be something bothering him that is preventing him from going to sleep - a worry on his mind or not comfortable in his room. Especially as bmthgirls DS has only recently started playing up at bedtime.
No, I was agreeing with you! It's what we do with my (admittedly v verbal) 2 year old if she has a weirdy bedtime - work out what's going on and ask her what she wants. so I can imagine a 5 year old could explain what they wanted and then you can work out a compromise/solution.