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Cuddly toy attachment???? Any knowledge?

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MamaMammalon Sun 17-Aug-08 18:20:24

My DD 15mths has just discovered the joys of 'Panda'. I read about cuddly toys being a replacement for the Mother in some way and I'm now panicking that perhaps she is feeling insecure?

She adores him and this has happened in around 5 days; beforehand she showed no allegiance to any one toy. Panda stays in bed to 'keep it warm' throughout the day to avoid her needing him to much.

I am sure this is all normal but I want to make sure!

Any opinions?

GordonTheGopher Sun 17-Aug-08 18:22:17

Tis a completely normal phase.

smile

Shitehawk Sun 17-Aug-08 18:23:20

Cuddly toys aren't a replacement for the mother. But they can offer comfort when you are not there.

Cuddly toys offer a lot for the senses too; they are soft and tactile, nice to touch. And they smell comforting too because they are familiar.

It is all normal.

Califrau Sun 17-Aug-08 18:23:52

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Slubberdegullion Sun 17-Aug-08 18:25:21

I concur with Califrau, but I will say it in a lovely soft cuddly toy voice, with one ear that is a bit worn down with rubbing.

Get more Pandas

wotulookinat Sun 17-Aug-08 18:25:27

Normal. Get a spare though.

LIZS Sun 17-Aug-08 18:26:21

Very normal, could last years though. Ours gives comfort even when mummy is cross and dd upset . Definitely get a duplicate or 2 !

everlong Mon 18-Aug-08 08:16:15

We have this with ds who's 2 next week.

He has a teddy comforter type thing ( head and blanket ) which he is totally obsessed with. He's had it since he was a newborn.

All the photo's of him around the house has this teddy on it and now he's started obsessing about the blooming photo's because he can see the teddy!

Oh the times we have lost it whilst out and about and had to re-trace our steps. Not funny. So we have a spare one incase beloved teddy is lost for good.

It's normal and quite endearing really.

GooseyLoosey Mon 18-Aug-08 08:34:52

Agree with others - very normal and you need to get replacements. Word of advice though, do not leave replacements in the cupboard - rotate them with the original as if you lose the original a pristine new one may not be accepted.

tiggerlovestobounce Mon 18-Aug-08 08:50:07

She isnt feeling insecure. She is feeling secure.

The Panda is a "transitional object" and this is a normal developmental stage.

transitional object

wotulookinat Mon 18-Aug-08 10:54:11

I still have a favourite cuddly toy that I can't sleep without. In fact, he is sitting next to the computer right now. I must still be in that stage!!

Othersideofthechannel Mon 18-Aug-08 12:32:42

wotu - mine creeps into bed when DH is away from home!

"Cuddly toys aren't a replacement for the mother. But they can offer comfort when you are not there"
They also offer comfort when child has a confrontation with the mother.

LUCIA22 Mon 18-Aug-08 13:10:52

My dd 15months is obsessive about her teddy. She got him for Xmas and is very attached to him. She takes it to nursery and apparently wont let him leave her side whilst she is there. I have always thought it is normal and quite sweet. Teddy shares food and drink with her, to the extent that teddy is now looking pretty ropey. We looked at getting a spare, he was only a cheapy from Toys r us but the new ones didnt look anything like it. I think we have left it too late, I hope he never gets lost, there is no way she would go to bed without him!!!!.

halogen Mon 18-Aug-08 13:26:17

For people who haven't got replacements, or who have replacements that might look rather different than the old toy, I highly recommend Tatty Ratty. It's a good book, too.

wotulookinat Mon 18-Aug-08 16:06:38

I think that book would make me cry.

LIZS Mon 18-Aug-08 16:07:59

made me cry blush

ShowOfHands Mon 18-Aug-08 16:12:18

Okay, now I'm slightly concerned that my dd does NOT have an attachment to anything. She shows no preference for any of her toys. She does like my nipples though. hmm

Sugarmagnolia Mon 18-Aug-08 20:14:55

I think it's perfectly normal and ok - my 7 1/2 yr old DD still will not sleep without her favourite teddy. HOWEVER, I have to say I have never allowed her to take it out and about with her (unless going for a sleepover or somewhere upsetting like doctors). I really, really hate seeing kids dragging loved but bedraggled toys or blankets to nursery, parks, play places you name it.

halogen Mon 18-Aug-08 21:44:44

That book made me cry too. But in a good way!

halogen Mon 18-Aug-08 21:47:04

Sugarmagnolia, I too thought I'd hate my daughter to be dragging a teddy round with her. But we have Po and Po Must Be With Us. Seriously, we can't go anywhere without her. And it's worse than a teddy as Po is larger and noisier and fecking lights up when you hug her. I'd have loved to limit Po to the bedroom but it absolutely wasn't possible without more upset than I was willing to cause for something so trivial!

katiepotatie Mon 18-Aug-08 21:48:23

At least it's not a bloody Santa that sings Santa Claus is coming to town (dd's favorite toy at the moment, since DH has been working away) grin

Twinklemegan Mon 18-Aug-08 21:55:43

Oh God, more paranoia for me to latch onto. Oh joy!

DS is very very attached to a little blue horse (well apparently it's a donkey but who cares). We call it Horsey and he calls it Shore hmm.

He doesn't go to nursery without Shore and he carries him around all day. He feeds him, he paints him, he baths him - you name it. He loves him damnit, and I think it's lovely. I reckon a 2 year old needs a bit of comfort when Mummy & Daddy aren't there, so I'm all for it.

That's a good point GooseyLoosey. Unfortunately we got Horsey/Shore's stunt double rather too late and there's a definite difference between the two. Also I'd feel I was somehow cheating DS if I tried to fob him off with an imposter (God forbid we ever have to).

lingle Mon 18-Aug-08 22:01:37

In his left hand, DS2 carries Doggy. In his right hand, he carries Doggy's secret replacement that he doesn't know about.

It took him about a month to figure out that Doggy was actually two doggies.

Now the doggies say "woof woof" to each other all the time.

Twinklemegan Mon 18-Aug-08 22:04:10

ROFL Lingle grin

FanjolinaJolly Mon 18-Aug-08 22:06:59

Oooh this is normal.ds is nearly 5 and we are on Bat number 4 (His comforet obvject is a fluffy Ikea bat).I have 2 replacement bats......

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