DS (4) said and did some things tonight which I found really upsetting. He was very tired - so it could be extreme tiredness related. Also, he'd been told a reasonable "no" at the time, so it could have been a reactive, button-pushing retort. Still, I felt unsettled by what he said and did.
In response to my "Let's take care of ourselves and get to bed and get some sleep line", DS said in all seriousness: "I don't want to care for myself. I don't care about myself. Not ever. I don't love myself and I won't look after myself." He then began whacking his head and then clawing at his face with his hands.
In getting quite emotional about this myself, I didn't know what to do - whether to ignore the behaviour and assume it's tired and irrational attention-seeking/button-pushing - or to get all serious about things like this, which I absolutely do not want DS to be feeling for real.
Neither his dad nor I have the most robust self-esteem (although I'm really working on mine), and his dad is shortly to see a pyschiatrist to investigate a possible mood disorder - so of course alarm bells have been ringing loudly in my head: I'm hyper-sensitive to anything untoward mood-wise.
I should stress that, apart from being a little on the shy side and an avid thumb-sucker, DS seems a content, bright, loving child most of the time.
Is this his attention-seeking, pissed-off tiredness talking, or should I be worried? And how should I respond if he does it again?
Thanks for any advice.
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Disturbing and sad behaviour in DS (4) - how should I respond?
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honkytonkwoman · 17/08/2008 00:00
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