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What's a suitable punishment for my devil child and her friend?

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neolara · 16/08/2008 16:00

DD (just 4) has a friend around to play. I hear them giggling happily through the baby monitor and think all is going well. Then I hear them calling me.

When I go up, I find they have spread the contents of a huge tub of heavy duty moisturiser (for treating eczema so very sticky, but not steroid based) over the floor, the doll, the train track, the chair (wood and fabric) and her brother's cot. And also themselves. They are both giggling wildly.

I am NOT amused.

So what do you think is a suitable punishment? They knew they shouldn't have done it, because the called me but then hid.

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Romy7 · 16/08/2008 16:05

clear up?

i think it is one of those checklist things '25 things to do before you start school' - doubt they'll bother again - it'll be onto 'give each other a haircut with the paper scissors' next...

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desperatehousewifetoo · 16/08/2008 16:08

Give them a bowl of water and washing up liquid and make them wash all the things that they can.

You'll obviously have to do most of it tho. They'll probably actually enjoy it but will keep them out of mischief whilst you sort everything out.

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juuule · 16/08/2008 16:11

No punishment apart from 'oooh you know you shouldn't have done that. Shall we clean up now'.

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VictorianSqualor · 16/08/2008 16:24

Natural consequence.
They must clean it up and then they have to sit downstairs quietly in your eyesight so you can see they aren't doing anything more.

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HaventSleptForAYear · 16/08/2008 16:27

what VS said.

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dropinthe · 16/08/2008 16:28

They MUST clear it up themselves(as best as 4 year olds can)-its what they will have to do at pre-school,no?

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alardi · 16/08/2008 16:28

You left a pair of 4yos unsupervised & that's the worse they got up to?

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SoupDragon · 16/08/2008 16:29

You left it within their reach so you are partly to blame.

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JonahTakalua · 16/08/2008 16:31

Be thankful they didn't eat it.

Involve them in the clearing up process, express your disappointment, and move on.

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juuule · 16/08/2008 16:33

But dropinthe, 2 4yos to clean up moisturiser, by themselves..yikes. It will be all over everything (incl all the stuff that's not already covered).

They've had fun. They know they shouldn't have done it. Remind them sternly they shouldn't have done it. Get them to help with some of the cleaning up. Make a note for yourself not to leave cream (or anything else they shouldn't have) within reach of 4yos.

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dropinthe · 16/08/2008 16:36

You are right-supervision is required but they need to feel the responsibilty of the consequences of their actions.

And don't leave the cream out next time!!!!

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HonoriaGlossop · 16/08/2008 17:24

agree with juuule, let them 'help' but they won't be able to do it alone. VS is right, the natural consequence is exactly what she said - bit of helping, then losing the right to play out of your eye-line for the rest of the day.

I guess some kids are more to be trusted than others; I couldn't leave ds for more than a few minutes when he was just four. At five and now six, he can be left playing alone or with others for quite long periods. But not at just 4. I guess you know now neolara that your dd needs a bit more time being supervised!

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savoycabbage · 16/08/2008 17:29

Mine put sudacreme in her hair............it took weeks to come out and she looked like the bloke with 'soul glow' in his hair in 'Coming to America'.

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