DS 6 is getting increasingly hard to manage. He is completely hyperactive at all times and does everything at full tilt and full volume. Whenever he starts something he gets so giddy and carried away and usually ends up hurting either himself or my 14 mo old DD in the process as his self preservation mechanism sems to disappear. He acts up everywhere we go, to the point that taking him onto shops is a nightmare as he picks up food off the shelves and tries to throw stuff around. He never listens and although we try and speak to him calmly and rationally, after six attempts at trying to get him to calm down and listen I end up losing the plot and having to bellow at him to even get his attention. He kicks off at the slightest thing as well, usually over the slightest thing, and once he starts there is no calming him down.
We have tried everything, naughty steps, time out, sending him to his room, star charts, taking toys away, denying him pre-organised treats and nothing works.
My 14mo old DD is starting to pick up on his behaviour and thinks that shouting is normal and that it's OK to scream if you aren't getting your own way. I'm struggling with depression at the minute and am 6.5 months pregnant to boot and feel like I just can't cope with either of them any more.
DH actually asked me at the weekend whether I thought it might be something like ADHD. His schoolwork has been deteriorating and his behaviour in school is getting worse too and he had had a few full blown tantrums there too shortly before the end of term. He kicks off over the slightest thing, and I can't get him to sit and do homework at all as he starts and if he does it wrong gets himself in such a state.
There are so many things and triggers and I'm getting scared to even talk to him as I know he is going to kick off. DH works away four days a week and I am really struggling to cope with it on my own.
things have been pretty unsettled at home for a couple of years and he has had a lot of upsets, losing two grandparents, moving house twice, me having two MCs, starting school, a new baby and now another new baby on the way, as well as his Dad changing jobs and now working away and my depression. I know the effect all of this has had on me (they were my parents), and think it's probably got lots to do with all of that, but I just don't know how to handle it.
Any advice would be gratefully received.
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behavioural issues or just natural 6 year old exuberance?
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LackaDAISYcal · 12/08/2008 09:51
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