Personally I really don't think I am. However this afternoon I was at my parents house. DS2 had been really happy playing most the afternoon playing. He'd only had a short nap today so was getting tired. Anyway he suddenly put his arms up and started to cry. At this point I said "whats the matter sweetheart" and picked him up and cuddled him. He was fine then - snuggled his head against mine with his thumb in his mouth. My dad made a comment when I picked him up asking if I do this everytime he cries. I do as it happens unless he cries at a time when I really can't ie if I'm in the bathroom etc etc. Anyway he then said that I am making a rod for my own back. I said nonsense you can't spoil a baby with cuddles. He said ofcourse you can you cuddle them on your terms/choosing and not when they decide or you'll be storing up all sorts of problems. This was confirmed in his eyes when I handed him over to my mum and he started to cry again. This is unusual as he spends alot of time with my mum and he have a strong bond however he only wanted me.
Very surprised even at his comment as he never held back with cuddles etc with me or my brother. Although obviously I can't remember how he was when I was a baby!! He is also a very loving grandfather to all his grandchildren. However is he right? Am I making a rod for my own back? Can you spoil a baby with too many cuddles? Over to you what do you think?
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Can a (nearly) 9 month old be "spoilt" with cuddles or am I making a rod for own back?
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2luvlyboys · 09/08/2008 20:32
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