Today i was at dp's father and step mothers house with my dd. The step mother, who i will call Julie for this thread, has been trying to start potty training my dd for several months but my dd just sits on it with her nappy on and just thinks it's a game. My dd is now 21 months.
I haven't been trying to potty train her because i feel she is not ready. It has been niggling me that Julie has been doing this because i feel it should be me who decides when she is potty trained, not her. Unfortunatly, it's the kind of situation where you can't say anything to Julie because it's awkward.
Today my dd went to her changing bag and got a nappy out to be changed. She hasn't done this before so i think she may be starting to become more ready for the potty. However, this started a conversation off between Julie and her friend who was there about how my dd should be out of nappies now and her daughter was clean by the age of 1 (in the 60s) and dry at night by 18 months. Her friend said how her daughter was clean by 18 months and how she thought 2 and a half was way too late.
Then they said how parents nowadays leave it so late and they used to do it much earlier blah blah blah.
Then Julies friend said to me "Oh you may find your dd might be slower at potty training because she was slow at walking (15 months) and slow at talking." I cannot believe she said that! My dd was not slow walking at 15 months and she certainly isn't slow at talking.
My dd is 21 months, she understands everything you say and is saying lots of different words. Julie has been making sly comments about my dd being "slow" at talking and it pisses me off because she is not.
As the pair of them sat there saying all this, i sat there trying to hold back the tears because what they were saying really hurt my feelings. When i got home i just burst into tears about how inadiquate (sp?) i feel. Sorry this so long, i just needed to get it off my chest.
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I feel like i am being pressured into potty training my dd by dp's step mother.
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MsSparkle · 31/07/2008 19:08
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