I don't know if there is something wrong with me or wrong with them. DD (5) especially makes me so angry I don't want to be in the same room as her. She whines, nags, talks incessantly about rubbish and expects an answer, demands one thing and as soon as she has got it, demands the next thing, wants to know what we are doing next, what we are doing after that, is it time yet etc. Nothing is ever right for her, there is always one small detail she is not happy about and gets angry or whiny about. She seems like she is trying to get more and more attention from me. She interferes when I try to talk to/play with DS or talk to DH. She continually aggravates her younger brother (3) and because he is oversensitive and cries about every little thing, eg because a child looked at him the wrong way, he is always crying or shouting. With him I just want to shout "What now?" because he cries so often about the smallest things.
At the same time, I feel there is something wrong with me. Some days I can cope with the children and I don't feel angry and other days they will be behaving just the same but I just can't cope with it without losing it.
Sometimes I feel motivated to do things with them and other days I don't know if it is extreme laziness that I have or depression, but I just don't want to even have to speak to them. I just want to be on my own. I tell them to go away and leave me alone and don't talk to me. I feel so guilty about this rejecting behaviour. I do get 2 days away from them in the week and this should be enough, but I am still horrible.
I feel like a horrible bitch and I feel that I am emotionally damaging them. Is it normal to get angry a lot and shout/rant a lot at your kids? If I never shouted would this be bad as well? I feel like I've failed when I shout just a bit. My own childhood was damaging and I am in therapy, but I would just like other people's views on it. How much anger/shouting is normal?
There are times when I think I just don't like my children and don't want them then I feel absolutely awful and a failure because this is how my parents made me feel.
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I am so angry with DCs a lot of the time
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TracksuitLover · 30/07/2008 14:16
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