cvuld really do with some help here, ds who is 3.10 is having a HUMDINGER of a tantrum, and demanding that we all get undressed again

[mazzystar]

having refused to get dressed all morning [not a problem], he is in his room shouting his worst obscenities [you poo-poos] and crying because he wants to be dressed first.

i have been to talk to him, to no avail

do i just leave him there to get on with it

he's making himself so miserable poor kid

[maidamess]

Just leave him. Say 'We are here waiting for you when you want to come down'. He'll come down. Don't mention it to him again. Aren't they funny when they get stroppy about silly things?

[HuwEdwards]

leave him. just ignore and when he starts to calm down a little, go and give him a hug, take his hand and offer to do something fun or nice to distract him.

[moondog]

Leave him. Do NOT return unless he calm down. Then go in andgive him lots of prasie and love.

[MsDemeanor]

I'd see if he wants a drink or something to eat. Hunger and thirst big triggers for hideous behaviour in my house.

[HuwEdwards]

Thats very true MsDemeanour....

[moondog]

No.Tis pandering. Offer after he calms down.

[MsDemeanor]

Clearly your children don't have a meltdown when hungry/thirsty Moondog. My son does. And as soon as he eats, it's over. It's a blood sugar thing.

[stoppinattwo]

sometimes offering food (ie changing the subject) is a way of offering the more stubborn of children a way of backing down without them losing face iykwim

[HuwEdwards]

has he stopped yet Mazzy?

[jangly]

Oh, little love! Go and say, "look, you can be first tomorrow and then I'll give you a prize".

[mazzystar]

yep its over

i left him to it

then he shouted mummy i want you, so i went to see him and suggested he drew a picture of how cross he was, gave him a big hug and he's back to normal

still only wearing a pj top and no pants but so what

very odd - he's such a sweetie mvst of the time

guess sometimes they just have to blvw

[Dragonbutter]

maybe this afternoon he'll throw a tantrum because you won't give him your hiccups.
3 year olds are so reasonable.