My ds will be 5 in November. He is middle child (daughter 6, younger son 2). I have been full-time mum until 2 months ago, when I went back to work 2 days a week. It gives me some much needed head space, and stops me obsessing about size of roast potatoes. The kids have been great. All fine, most of the time. But he gets angry with me over the tiniest things eg. we didn't have bran flakes this morning. And he starts saying things like 'I hate you'. I've tried to encourage him to tell me if he is cross ' Mummy, I feel cross and angry' to stop him using words like 'hate'. We have always had an intense relationship. He still ends up most nights in our bed. He is an angel most of the time, and extremely popular at school, well behaved and loving to both his siblings (with of course a normal amount of quarreling). But today we were at my daughter's assembly and I asked him to sit quietly to which he replied ' I hate you, I'm going to kill you' in front of all the teachers. I was mortified and really upset. In fact I started to cry. Sometimes I wonder if I should just be a lot firmer with him. I am a consistent parent, I use time-outs when necessary, reward schemes for good behaviour, I know I'm not perfect, but how can I help him with his anger? I give him as much one-to-one as is possible in this family and he always gets the most attention because he always shouts the loudest, If anyone is not getting enough it is my 6 year old, poor thing. Any great wosdom out there? I want him to grow up. He starts reception in September, and I'm really hoping this will be an enormous help.
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lostinfrance ·
16/07/2008 23:34
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