Completely ignore her when she does it. It's an experiment to see what your reaction will be if she does it. If the person she's hitting gets annoyed or says "Ouch!" it makes the 'game' even more appealing. Avoid eye contact when she does it and pretend it's not happening.
lilsmum I think most children do go through a stage like this - me personaly - when my dd did this to me I felt that trying to sit down and explain that this was hurtful etc was wasted as there concentration is low so I used to smack her back on the hand and when she cried told her that she made me sad too when she smacked me - I know they say that smacking them is teaching them to hit too but I wanted her to feel it to understand it - dd is 21/2 and doesnt hit - infact it didnt last for long - I think you have to catch it right away as I said dont know if everyone would deal with it this way but I did and it worked - good luck
Have just got over this. These are a few tips passed on by my hv.
When she smacks someone, say you for example, get your dh/dp or someone else in the room to give you lots of attention like cuddles and say oh poor mummy. You know, really over the top. Give no attention to dd.
If she smacks you and your in the house on your own say "that hurts mummy" and look sad.
We did it with dd and she has stopped doing it now. DH used to stroke my face and say " poor mummy" and give me a big cuddle. DD now just comes up to me and strokes my face now and goes "Ohhhhhhhh"! For no reason!
lilsmum I dont think they need to see anyone else do it I think it is just another wee experiment in their wee lives another boundry to try and push - I dont think they mean to be hurtful they dont really understand.
Hi Lilsmum, My DS still does it now, he's 3.5, he seems to start when he can't get his own way. I used to give him a smack on the nappy when he was naughty, he is so deffiant, but stopped that coz he thought if mum can do it, so can i!!
So now if he smacks, i put him on my bed, or in a boring room till he's calmed down, then when i go in after 2 or 3 mins he says, 'i'm sorry mummy' So they know it's wrong to do it, they're just testing us!
But i agree with you Mummygow, sometimes you want them to know how much they hurt you, but as i've learnt, behaviour breeds behaviour.
Just have to take them out of your area & let them know that you'll play/talk to them when they're being nice.
Clare1406 know exactly what you mean - I do use your method for lots of things - I suppose I was lucky that the hitting stage was over as quickly as it started as I suppose you cant keep that up - but I think its the same with all stages and all children, you try different methods of dicipline because they all react differently to different methods - thats why I loved christmas (santa was watching) lol
Mummygow, we're currently using the "Birthday Fairy is watching" trick, that should see us through to september 14th!! LOL
Lilsmum, definately try the walking away thing or putting her in a room where she can't hurt herself, or take a a toy away or switch off Cbeebies that usually does the trick. But when shes old enough to undertysand, make her know that you are sad by what shes done, & that you need her to say sorry.