Need help with DS 15 months

[kayzisexpecting]

I think my DS has started the 'terrible 2's' early.

I am starting to feel like a bit of a bad mum. When he does something wrong, we say "No" to him and move him away from what he was after. But when we do say "no" to him, he throws himself on the floor and starts screaming and kicking. Sometimes he will headbutt the floor.

Is there anyway of telling him no without upsetting him so much? Or will this carry on until he is older?

TIA

[Piffle]

walk away it takes away his target audience. Forces him to look for you move to find you and therefore more easy to distract
my ds2 is 15mths and started this a few mths ago. I employed the leave method but also made his environment as accessible as possible. Pick your battles. If he walks off with a fork rather than take it and say no. Sit him down spear some banana on it and show him how to use it. Diversion.
we have do many things up high now within reason we let him explore. Toilet seats down and keep them clean therefore if he dunks things its not dirty. Just water.
so what if he shreds loo roll. Empties the bin. Etc...
Good luck they are a bloody handful at this age and no mistake

[puffylovett]

Hi, we're suffering with the same probs, made worse by blinking eye teeth coming through

I'm finding that at the moment, what works best is - bend down, calmly explain to him why he can't have / do it (this is me trying to instill good habits in myself for future reference !!) and then distracting him with a toy / outside / beating dog up etc etc...

distraction is definitely the best measure ! Although, i did start worrying the other day that maybe I am rewarding his bad behaviour

it helps to remember that he doesn't understand reason yet, and that he's just expressing his inner emotions, he will learn to control himself eventually ! and it is our job to teach them how to do it, and lead by example.

the other morning he was throwing himself around his changing table, and I shouted No! at him as was knackered and sleep deprived and felt immediately guilty and started berating myself about me being the adult, lead by example etc etc... so I can promise you you aren't alone !! it's so hard isn't it

[kayzisexpecting]

Thanks.

He is getting his back teeth through so I am hoping it might calm down a bit once they are through. It does seem worse when he is tired.

I will start walking away and explaining why he can't do what he was doing.

I think being 13 weeks pregnant with DC2 and being tired isn't helping matters.

I will put your tips into practice.