This is kind of AIBU as well... I don't like dawdling. I'm happy for DS to explore/mess about if we're not actually headed from A to B - but when we are he knows he has to move it. A bit is OK, I'll let him walk along walls, stop to pick a dandelion clock etc. but not more than a minute or two's delay.
But I have several friends who we do stuff with, who let their kids stop still on the pavement and arse around, run off in the other direction, stop to climb on a wall etc to such a degree that it can literally take half an hour to get along a 200-yard street. It drives me bananas! Just standing there trying to amuse DS, waiting for their child to decide to come along in the right direction, no pressure from the parents whatsoever.
But now I'm starting to wonder if it's me who's too anal and shouldn't be hurrying DS along so much. I'm such a bleeding-heart liberal and I thought my problem with parenting would be that I'd be too namby-pamby and not strict enough. I'm starting to wonder if I'm actually on the stricter end of the spectrum.
(This kind of taps into a whole other thing about people generally not expecting decent behaviour and a reasonable amount of compliance out of their 2/3-yos which I am constantly raising my eyebrows at like a miserable old schoolmarm. Things like letting your child walk into someone else's garden and start kicking the flowers, which happened to my friend recently - parents just would not tell the child no. Or child refusing to get off swing to give someone else a turn, so parent just crumples and lets them have another 10 mins. Aaaarrgh!)
Want to know court of MN's opinion and whether anyone else gets annoyed by this.
Or a I a DM-esque killjoy?
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DAWDLING (and general misbehaviour) in toddlers - how much do you put up with?
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snowleopard · 13/06/2008 11:04
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