Ds1 (4 and a half)started reception year at school in Sept. Loves school everything seemed fine. HAd a minor incident with a tantrum or 2 in first term which I put down to tiredness and nothing abnormal. Started going full time in January and I was called in to see his teacher yesterday as she is very concerned about his behaviour since he has returned to school this term. She firstly asked how he had been at home and I honestly answer 'Fine, A bit more tired, especially by end of week but he loves coming and is very excited about learning to read and write.' She then dropped what was a bombshell to me. His behaviour has been so bad that there has been at least 1 incident a day where he gets so cross or frustrated that she is afraid he will hurt himself (or another child) He is doing very well with writing and reading but if he encouters a word he does not immedialty recognise then he gets very angry with himself and will refuse to read anymore of the book. Similarly if he is writing and does a letter wrong then he will get very frustrated with himself and want to rip his work book up. He will pull at is hair and hold his fists to his head in anger/frustration. If other children are not dong something 'his way' or the pay ds1 perceives is the correct way then he will get frustrated and cross at them for not listening to him telling them how to do it the 'right way'. THis has resulte in im pushing another child and pushing another boys water bottle to his face while he was drinking and hence hurting the childs mouth At circle time when his teachers counts to 10 to getthe children to sit down he has been refusing to sit if he is doing something else he considers more important. There has been building work at the school and DS1 has come home and spent a long time drawing his own 'plans' for some sort of building he believes he is allowed to actually build at the school! It has been explained to him that this is wonderful thathe has this imagination and skill at drawing his ideas but it will not be possible for other children to bring in materials from home for them to really build this! He doesn't understand this and it frustrates him even more.
He is a very sensitive child who is very aware of things around him and especially others emotions. I have to stop him seeing the news because he will be in tears at hearing a child has dies or someone hurt a child etc After the tsumnami disaster he sobbed saying he wanted to be a dr so as he could go and help the injured people, emtied his moneybox and wanted to donate all his Xmas money and old toys to the children. He seems to totally empathise with others emotions IYSWIM. We recently discovered he seems to have colour-emotion synesthesia after he was trying to explain to us about the colours he saw in his head when he was angry/happy/sad/etc (his father rememebers having the same thing as a child)Ds1 thought everyone saw the colours and was very surprised to learn they did not. Sometimes when he is very cross he tels me he wanted the red (anger) to move outthe way and let the blue (happy) square into his head. He also had a couple of bald patches on his head before Xmas and after a referral was diagnosed with Alopecia although (touch wood) those patches have started to regrow. Initially we thought he had been pulling his hair out in frustration then thought the alpoecia may be related to having started school (although he really enjoys it it may have been quite stressful for him?) Consultant thought this may be te case also.
ANyway, so now I have been left feeling utterly shocked at hearing about his behaviour at school this term and although have discussed action with his teacher I am worrying about it all and even thinking about Autism and Aspergers simply becasue, well probably due to the fact that he has been displaying 'odd' behaviour ie making sure towells in bathroom hang 'properly' chairs under table are straight. Behaviour I previously put down to stress. When I took him to school this morning he was acting slihtly odd (hiding in trees when time to go in) and when he got to his table I watched as he pulled out the 'plans'he has drawn and started talking to himself and gesticulating in quite a exagerrated and comical way ie putting finger on chin to emphsise thinking about something and raising finger in air in 'eureka' manner as he talked to himslef about the 'plans'. He was really acting out his thoughts but it looked realy very odd and I just stood at the other end of the classroom thinking 'OMG what is he doing?!'
He is not normally an aggressive or badly behaved child - yes he can have his moments as they all can and he has always had his little ways but I would have classed him as a child who knows wrong and right (is very quick to point out another childs 'bad' behaviour)or a child whose little ways were at all worrying before.
I would appreciate any thoughts or similiar experiences to this as I am really panicking that things are goiong very pear shaped.
Sorry its so long - wanted to give as much info as I could.
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Very worried about DS's behaviour since starting full time at school
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starry · 20/01/2005 13:31
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