so ds has a habit of pinching wit his hand of squeezing things really hard, especially if he's tired. he's started to do it at nursery to the other kids and they are telling me it's a problem. he knows it's wrong, and he says sorry (the word) and will pat or stroke or kiss to make it better afterwards, if asked to do so. He tends to do it if there isn't an adult present, but when caught in the act will not let go!
they told me today that they are using time out with him at nursery, two minutes. firstly, i'm really upset they didn't consult with me first on how to handle it, and secondly, i'm not sure if he's old enough for this to be effective. it's not something we have to do at home really - if he hits or pinches one of us then i will tell him no sharply and put him away from me, ask him to say sorry and to be gentle and then it's all forgotten. i don't understand really how time out works - does that mean he should be put someonewhere on his own for two minutes and be ignored? seems so harsh, he's only a baby and learning the rules...
help i feel really confused and upset and i'm worried that maybe i'm too 'wet' about disciplining him and i'm making it worse because i don't punish him. but do you really punish a baby? feels wrong to me...
tell me what to do!
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TIme Out - I'm really confused about how to discipline 20mo ds...
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boozybird · 21/05/2008 21:15
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