Your opinions would be very much appreciated - thanks

[yorkiemom]

ok here goes-

Have just come back from my ds (3) swimming lesson.
Over the past 3/4 weeks one boy has been making a bee line for my ds and splashing him in the face, he can see that this upsets my ds and just carrys on all the more.
This week , again boy a makes sure he is next to my ds and splashes him in the face the whole time. He does'nt do this to anyone else, and I do admit that my ds did have a go back and tried to splash him back.
Anyway after twenty minutes I got fed up and stomped round to the pool and swished my ds along next to someone else, and told the teacher I was really fed up this boy was splashing my ds, and could they be kept apart.

At the end of the lesson boy a's mum asked mt why had I shouted at her son, to which I replied that I had'nt I had asked the teacher to keep them apart, as he was constantly splashing my ds in the face, she then said why did'nt I speak to her - fair comment, but I did'nt know who he belong to, and said this, she then said that her ds had'nt been splashing at all. My friend then said actually he has and has been doing so for weeks, she then said well thats what swimming lessons are for, to splash.
I said yes of course there will be splashing but not constantly and in the face.
She then said that how dare I speak to her son that was, and if it happened again she would "sort me out herself"!!!!
To which I replied she should grow up, along with her perfect son!!!

I feel really angry, my ds is an absolute pain in the ass most of the time, and I know this, I am under no illusion that he is perfect, but in this situation he needed my help, and at 3 I will stick up for him when he can't deal with the situation himself, which he could'nt.

Do you think I should have done nothing, or perhaps have a word with the teacher at the end- probably best !!
But I did'nt !!
I also feel angry that some mums think their children are perfect.
Sorry I've gone on and on, what do you think , all replies greatly appreciated unless you are the mum I have argued with !!!!

[poodlepusher]

I think you did the most sensible thing by removing your DS from the situation and letting the teacher know.

confrontations are horrible and upsetting but I expect she will try to avoid it happening again another time.

[TheFallenMadonna]

Yep. Having a (quiet) word with the teacher at the end would have been the way to go I reckon...

[car25]

I would have done the same thing as you, and this sort of thing really annoys me.

Think of it the other way round, if it had been my child splashing another constantly I would have been over there in a shot to stop my child doing it.

Lazy parenting IMO.

[yorkiemom]

Thanks for replies, after calming down I do think I should have had a word with their teacher, but too late now !!
It just really wound me up as this little boy made a bee lione for my ds, and kept looking at me so see if I was watching him, I really think his mum must have been completely blind.
As I said earlier my ds can be a complete pain, but if it had been the other way round I would have been straight round there telling him off.
Thanks again, still dreading next Tuesday though!!!