Currently exp visits here to see the boys. Lately he has taken to taking the piss out of me, ie I will say that it is ds1's bedtime and he will mock me by copying my voice childishly, or (as this week) I have passworded my computer and he told me to "Go and shag whoever you're shagging on the internet, I know you're fucking hiding something" in frontof the kids.
Now, when he said that I immediately told him it was time for him to go, then ds1 became hysterical, scrteaming, sobbing etc.
How can I explain to ds1 (and soon to ds2) that sometimes although Daddy loves them, he doesn't behave well and I have to make him go?
I feel like my children are being punished for my desire for privacy and his desire to see them.
He can't take them out all the time, I had to give him the money tonight to take them for a macdonalds because I don't actually want to speak to him, and he lives in an entirely unsuitable place for children.
I am trying to set up some mediation with relate, but in the meantime I need a way of dealing with this ... but cutting his very regular and reliable contact would, I feel, upset the children more.
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How can I 'ask' exp to leave without upsetting ds1?
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SmugColditz · 30/04/2008 19:42
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