I have twin dds who will be four in a couple of months. One of them (dd1) has always been a mummy's girl and still follows me around everywhere, wanting loads of kisses and fuss, the other (dd2) has always been more willing to get on with things on her own, quite happy to play by herself, although I have obviously played with her and ensured she has plenty of kisses and cuddles even though she never seeks them.
However, DD2s behaviour the last few weeks has been awful, shouting at me, screaming and stamping with rage at the slightest thing, threatening to spit at me and I have tried all sorts to improve things (star charts, with-holding toys etc) without much success - this is only towards me, not DH or anyone else.
Yesterday DH and I had a good chat about her behaviour and he said it was obvious to him that she is very jealous of her sister. He said that every time DD2 tries to get my attention DD1 draws it away from her somehow, by either pretending to hurt herself, or saying she needs to go to toilet with me, even though she can manage by herself. When I sit with DD2 to do a jigsaw or a game DD1 will steal a bit and deliberately mess it up so I can't play with DD2.
Sorry I'm rambling here but I just feel depressed that I haven't seen all this before - it all seems to blindingly obvious now it's been pointed out but how can I improve things? How does everyone else manage to split their time/attention between their children if one is so much more demanding. I feel so sorry for my poor little DD2, I would hate her growing up thinking I didn't love her as much.
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How do you give your children equal attention?
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sandyballs · 06/01/2005 10:46
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