Our DS1 is a lively 3yo. When he's good he's very very good and when he's bad he's horrid.
I feel I am firm but fair and as he is only 3 am prepared not to worry too much about the odd flash of temper and the constant rounds of NO!
But my DP feels that we are letting him get away with too much. And it is now causing stress between us. Today my DP was at home with us and he put our son in the corner several times for things that I felt were minor.
My DP will then talk and talk the issue to our DS who doesn't understand and he then gets to meltdown and just wants a hug because the rules have suddenly changed.
My DP's brother is very strict with his two children and to be fair they are well behaved but they are also 5 &6.
Things that my DP & I fell out about today are:
DS shoving his food away at mealtime and saying he doesn't want it. DS not using his fork & spoon properly. DS saying NO to getting dressed, using the potty, throwing a toothbrush at his brother.
All to me perfectly normal 3 yo behaviour that with a stiff no or general ignoring distraction can be dealt with but things my DP thinks we should be firmer about.
This is compounded by his mothers suggestion that our DS should have a separate table in the dining room and that if he misbehaves he should be made to sit at it to finish his meal not sit with us!
I feel like the voice of reason amongst the Victorians. Or am i being a wimp?
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3 years old and driving a wedge between me & DP
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pippylongstockings · 11/03/2008 20:20
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