Potty training nightmare

[Rockape1992]

Hi all hoping someone can give me some advice as I’m at the end of my tether. DS is 2.8 and we’ve just started potty training as he’s starting a new nursery in September that only takes dry children. I’ve read the ‘Oh Crap’ book and have tried to use that approach but 6 days in I feel as though we’ve made no progress. DS does have bladder and bowel control, he held his pee for over 6 hours on the first day rather than go anywhere near his potty. It doesn’t seem to matter how much I encourage him to sit on it, prompt him when I can see the signs he needs to go (crying, pacing the room, going on tiptoes etc) he’s just ignore it and then after a while, pee on the floor. I usually manage to get some in the potty as move him onto it mid flow (as the book suggests) but doesn’t seem to have made any difference in helping him to understand that when he needs to go, he should sit on it. He almost seems to have an aversion to it. He sat on it quite happily and he would watch tv etc on it when we first got it out a few months ago, but now he won’t sit on it for more than a few seconds without getting up. If I try and make him stay on it, he gets upset so don’t want to force him. Equally, we’ve tried straight on the toilet approach with a trainer seat but he seems just as scared of it that as he is of the potty. I’ve tried putting him in trousers commando but doesn’t seem to help. If he has pants on, he just pees in them as he would a nappy and doesn’t even seem aware that he needs to go. The book urges us not to give up but I’m 6 days in and not has one self initiated wee on the potty. Should I call it a day? At this rate I’m starting to worry he’ll be starting school in nappies, let alone nursery! We’ve tried bribery with sweets and toys etc, we’ve tried praising him when he gets some pee in the potty, we let him take his pee to the toilet and flush it away (which he loves) but none of it seems to have helped him make the connection. I don’t think he’s doing it to be naughty, it just feels like he doesn’t get it! 😫 Any tips, advice would be most welcome.

[Rosaceagal]

Hi, it can end up such a stressful time potty training. I tried with my daughter at 2.8 but she just wasn't ready. I tried again at 3.3 and she got it but I got her like a mini version of a proper toilet and that seemed to work better. Could give it a go! Good luck he will get there x

[Hoth]

Hi Rockape. In going through toilet training difficulties too. My little boy was aware he is doing pees and poos and would tell me. I thought this might be a good time to start the training process. I've bought the potty but I never got a chance to even introduce it before we hit a major set back. My little fella always loved a bit of naked time but on this one occasion he peed on the floor. He got such a fright....he was trying to stop himself from peeing anymore. I was telling him he was great for doing pee pee but he seemed so distressed that I put a nappy on him and he relaxed again, well after we cleaned up the pee, he seemed really disgusted. Now he doesn't like being naked or changing his nappy. He says bye to his pee pee when the nappy is on. I never thought he could have such a bad reaction before we even started to train.... I've put away the potty and I'm back tracking on talking about poos and pees, unless he mentions it, and then I just praise him. I hoping in a few weeks his anxiety will have subsided and he won't be scared to be naked again. Fingers crossed. I think I will be leaving the toilet training for another few months.