Hi, I’m looking for a bit of advice regarding my sons behaviour.
He’s only 5 but this has been something he has always done and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better.
If he perceives his feelings to be hurt, he will lash out.
It used to be physical hitting and biting and now it’s more verbal, but still severe.
Yesterday I collected him from school and everything was fine. He had something in his pocket which needed returning so we took it back. He was disappointed but ok.
Then the tantrum started.
Louder than I’ve ever heard any small child shout at their parents he screamed “I hate you” “you’re the worse mum ever” “I want to be in another family”.
I knelt by him and offered calm reassurance, which is typical. I don’t engage in his temper with him. It eventually stopped and it was as if it never happened. Had a cuddle.
The thing is that he’s not a baby anymore and tantrums are less tolerated. Judgements are made and he’s going to upset people. The teacher has started giving me knowing looks although she’s never suggested there is a problem.
Normally he’s ok, a lovely helpful boy, but people don’t forget or always forgive. I myself was quite hurt and humiliated this time.
Sometimes the lashing out is directed at himself “I’m the worst boy ever”, “throw me away” etc.
We’ve never said anything like this to him nor has he been exposed to it.
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Challenging 5 Year Old Tantrums
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LouLouLouL · 09/03/2021 15:39
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