3.5 year old told off at nursery

[plumpootle]

She was rude to a TA. Nursery are great and I'm sure handled it really well. But what do I do now? Talk to her about it? I'm not sure what's appropriate / helpful here.

[Hirewiredays]

I would get her to do a sorry card or poster. Stick the poster on the door or show it before returning to nursery. During the time taken, talk about behaviour expectations and how the TA must have felt. Do this all in a positive manner.

[plumpootle]

I did talk to her about it, a few times. I'm not sure about the sorry poster. For one thing she's not sorry, although she says she won't do it again. I think the idea of talking about how the teacher felt is a really good idea though.

[Hirewiredays]

This is what I do with my son. He's not sorry but he's starting to get empathy and from the Perspective of the other person. I put the incident in the middle in a visual form and draw lines from it out like a spider linked to other areas impacted like mummy being sad when she was so excited to pick you up for school and then got told such sad news about poor behaviour. I then keep the poster and go thought it again regularly in the follow up. We did this recently about how the teacher was so happy to tell me good news about excellent behaviour today after his in ability to show good listening in the classroom. My son doesn't like to make other people be sad and cry with his poor choices.

[Hirewiredays]

I'm a teacher so we do this type of activity for cause and effect

[Rainallnight]

She’s three and a half. Have a chat about kindness, how she could do things differently in future and move on.

[Sunnysideup321]

I agree with rainallnight she's 3.5 making a poster is a bit over the top. A child should be addressed and then move on from it because they've understood what they did was wrong not made to guilty for it. Although my 3.5 push a girl (over excitedly) refused to apologise and I took money from his money box (which he loves filling but never spends it) and bought her a colouring book but I didn't go on about it and it had good effect

[Aria999]

Depends if it's a once off or repeated i think.

Mine is 4.5. We had a phase of bad behavior at preschool which now seems ok fingers crossed. Part of it was identifying and addressing two specific things that were making him unhappy at school. After that I asked the teachers for a daily report and ensured there were good and bad consequences each day for good and bad behavior.