I’m really struggling with guilt and generally feeling stressed. I have a 2.5 year old and a 6 week old baby.
My DS 2.5 is bored at home. He’s clingy when I’m trying to feed the baby. He’s constantly asking for things I’d rather he didn’t have, like his dummy (I would prefer he only had it at night), chocolate, and my phone to watch kids YouTube. It’s turning into a constant battle all day every day and I’m not enjoying life at the moment. He never seems happy unless he’s got my phone. It’s the only thing that keeps him occupied long enough for me to feed and change baby. He doesn’t nap unless we go out in the car but then I have to drag the baby with us and he doesn’t want to go anyway so that’s another argument. I haven’t got the energy for it with not getting enough sleep, tending to both of them at night.
I love him so intensely and I just want the best for him. He’s a sweet little boy who just loves his mummy...and YouTube!!
We haven’t been getting out much because Covid, not seeing family, not going to soft play as he still needs me to play on the equipment and I need to be with baby, not going to park as he screams when we have to come home, not gong for walks in case he runs off and I’m left deciding whether to run after him or stay with baby in pram.
I’d rather not put him in nursery as we’ve come this far without it and I don’t think he’s ready to be away from me, although I think it would be better for him than staying here at home in this environment of bad food, dummy all the time, arguments and far, far too much screen time.
Today we’ve played with a balloon for half an hour, been out in the garden for half an hour he wanted to come in for chocolate, we’ve done some water play but it doesn’t occupy him for long.
My husband is really helpful but works long hours in a demanding job so needs his sleep at night and out all day. He does the baby night shift at weekends but DS will only sleep with me, I’m ok with this though.
Am I worrying too much about the screens?
I love the baby so much but I preferred my life before, I loved all the cuddles from my clingy boy but now I’m starting to feel suffocated by it as I can’t do anything without giving him YouTube, and I hate myself for all of that. Sat here crying feeding the baby.
Sorry if this is all jumbled I’ve just written things as they’ve come to my mind. I just want the best for both kids. Also feeling guilty as baby spends loads of time in Moses basket and not having as much cuddle time as I’d like, and as I gave my son.
Any suggestions or experiences would really help, thank you
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RuubySoho · 23/09/2020 12:21
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