So I have a 4yo son who is very head strong and independent , always has been. But over this past year hes changed and I simply can’t control him anymore.
I only have to ask him to please pick up his toys when he’s finished playing with them and the response I get is NO .. IM NOT .. STOP .... IM NOT LISTENING TO YOU. This goes on until I loose it and shout but that doesn’t work , I put him in his room and he comes back out, I take things away like toys when he argues back , that doesn’t work soon as he earns them back he starts again.
It’s constant all day every day , there hasn’t been a day now for months where he hasn’t argued or answered back to everything I say or ask.
Took him to the shops , he asked for something at the shop when I said no he stamped his feet shouting at the top of his lungs YOUR HORRIBLE , I WANT IT WHY CANT I HAVE IT THATS NOT FAIR. When I approach him in this state to talk to him he runs away shouting DONT TOUCH ME GET AWAY FROM ME and screams like he’s being murdered.
Since he was old enough to understand the word no I’ve always told him off for doing wrong and praised him for doing right . He starts school next week , nursery have never had a problem with him they say he’s the model child never had to say a bad word to him or about him and they praise me for how well he’s done which is so lovely to hear but he’s nothing like that at home.
I’ve exhausted every method now and I’m starting to get down about it as I really have tried my hardest and I never let him walk all over us. I have a baby girl who was born in lockdown aswell and all I seem to do is shout over her to him and I’m worried all she is going to know is shouting.
I’m exhausted and so is my partner as he also doesn’t listen to him.
Any advice please ?!?!?
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4 year old son answering back, arguing and screaming!
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JR2021 · 30/08/2020 15:00
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