Seeking advice about my 12 year old DS. He has always had behaviour issues which have worsened over the last few years to the point now where I am starting to give up. He doesn't listen to a word I say, do what I ask etc, and has recently started to go out with friends, coming back at 8.30 or 9pm in the evening or asking to have a sleepover on short notice with a friend I don't know well. He is bright but not at all engaged with his school work, obsessed with rap/being cool etc, not interested in working hard and has no respect for me or any rules I try to set. Situation is not helped by our family set up as his dad and I are divorced and DS doesn't get on well with his stepdad, despite DH trying to reach out to DS over the years (DH has been around since DS was 2 years). I honestly don't know how to manage him anymore and feel I simply cannot control his behaviour unless I give up full time work to try to supervise him although I am not sure that will help. I've had him assessed for ASD and ADHD - he was found to have traits of both but no diagnosis of either. His behaviour at school is generally poor although the private secondary he started at last year seemed to help a lot and sort out his behaviour in lessons at least, although not in the playground. He lies, is rude, swears, is super loud, messy and simply doesn't listen or do anything I ask. What can I do, other than despair?
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