My ds nursery schol teacher said today my son likes pushing what do I do

[laughalot]

My ds started nursery on the 19th sep when I picked him up today and asked how he had been the teacher said he had been ok but has been pushing other children also he dosent like sitting still at storytime so she has been keeping him near her to keep a eye on him. What do I do I feel like im a bad mummy because my ds is pushing other children also why has she only mentioned it now if he has been doing it for a while, I know he has only just started and he has just turned 3 but I feel bad.

[laughalot]

Anyone ? Any advice

[RubySlippers]

discuss it with his key worker
sounds pretty normal TBH
don't feel bad but get a strategy in place dealing with it so the same thing happens at nursery as it would at home

[mishymoo]

Sounds normal to me! I was mortified when told that my DS had been hitting someone and it turned out that that someone had also been hitting and biting my DS! They learn it from somewhere, and 9 times out of 10, it is from nursery...unless you shove eachother at home???

[Twiglett]

you don't do anything the nursery has it covered

you don't feel bad, its a rather normal stage of childhood

[laughalot]

Thanks it is just heartbreaking when other children are really well behaved I just dont want a little bully on my hands x

[mishymoo]

I think it is just the way the staff come across sometimes - they have a knack of making you feel like your child is the worst in the universe but in reality, he is probably just having a few off days and to be fair, he hasn't been there very long and is still settling in!

I really wouldn't worry about it!

[Skribble]

Don't worry he is only 3 and he will not be the only one doing this. The nursery staff will have a lot of words in a lot of ears about almost all of the children at some point. They are just letting you know how he is getting on.

Thats what nursery is all about, learning to be sociable, to concentrate for longer periods of time and sharing toys and attention, it doesn't come easy to a 3 yr old honest.

[MamaD]

laughalot. I am going through the EXACT same thing at the mo. My dd is 2.5 and last week she pushed, hit and tried to bite other kids on mon, tue and wed. She has NEVER done anything like this before - if anything was a bit of a 'teachers pet' because she spends most of her time with the staff rather than the other kids.

I was mortified and had visions of her being the first 3 year old in the country with an ASBO!

Turns out that the boy she pushed and hit on Mon was the lad who pushed her over and split her lip the week before. It seems to have set off some chain reaction in her and now she is doing it to others.

She was good on Thu and Fri tho', I think mainly because I did the 'If you are good today, no hurting anyone, you can have a magazine on the way home / go swimming / go to a party on Saturday etc etc' - which are all planned events anyway, but used as a 'bribe'. Also when I picked her up on Wed I had bought her a magazine and made her watch me put in in the bin when I found out she had bitten someone (rescued later so I could 'buy' it again on Thu lol). I had warned her when I dropped her off - so she saw me follow it thru.

I thought I was a bad mum - but I know I'm not - and neither are you. Kids are just horrible at times...

[HonoriaGlossop]

Agree it's totally normal. We still have some 'pushers' in ds class at school - year one!

The nursery aren't telling you to get you to do something; just to say how he's getting on. And he sounds utterly normal for having only just started. He's learning the social rules and he can't learn other than by experience. No wonder he doesn't like sitting still at story time - he's a 3 yr old boy!

And don't go thinking all the other kids are somehow different; I can promise you that over the academic year they will ALL have their own challenges.

I'd just say relax, let him learn and let the nursery get on with it.

[laughalot]

Thanks everyone I feel loads better x