Have i done the rite thing? Or am i a mean mummy?

[Marne]

Dd1 has been unwell since monday with a water infection, i have tried to keep her in nursery 93 times a weeks) as she has'nt been going long and i know if she has a day off it will be even harder to get her to go next time.

Any way Dh was supposed to be taking her this mornung but he phoned me at work and said she was refussing to go as she was unwell 9i could hear her crying), dh was upset so he decided to keep her at home.

Dh phoned nursery and as soon as dd herd she was'nt going she bucks up and starts playing. I got home from work at 1pm and dd seems fine. I phoned the GP for her test resaults and am told she has had a very small UTI but nothing realy showed up on the test. I talk to dd and she tells me she was crying this morning because she did'nt want to go to nursery.

I phoned the nursery and asked if i could bring her in for 2 hours, told dd iwould stay for a bit, anyway i have just dropped her off (she was a little upset).

Have i done the rite thing?

I dont think dh is happy as he wanted to keep her home

Am i a mean mummy?

[Marne]

Bump

[fluffyanimal]

If she wasn't really poorly then yes I think you did the right thing.

[WigWamBam]

I think you've done exactly the right thing. You can't let her get away with manipulating you to that extent - or playing you and your dh off against each other in that way.

If she gets away with it once, she will push her luck again and again, on this and on other issues.

[dustystar]

I agree with fluffy

[barnstaple]

I don't think you're a mena mummy or even a mean one! Most kids play up a bit about going to nursery/school, and will grab any chance they have to stay at home. The results of the test say she's basically OK - they would have said if they thought she should stay at home. Chances are, she'll have a lovely couple of hours. But she'll do the same tomorrow anyway...

[maisemor]

No, I don't think you are a mean mummy.

However if your husband wants to be a STAHD, he should say so, so that you can save the nursery fees.

She is not sick.

I have kept my children home from time to time when they are not sick, but only because I wanted to spend the day with them and I happened to have a day off from work, not because they decided they did not want to go.

[Marne]

Thankyou, i feel real realy mean, i think i have done the right thing, she played up on wednesday but once a walked away and left her she was fine. I don't think dh realises how cleaver she can be.

[mishymoo]

Agree with WigWamBam. If you let her get away with it once, it will become a battle every time she has to go to nursery. Kids love playing one off against the other and it will only cause arguments between you and DH. Perhaps you need to explain to DH why you took her to nursery so he doesn't feel you have underminded him IYSWIM?

[Marne]

She does'nt realy need tobe at nursery but i was advised to put her in by her hv and gp to help her overcome her shyness, she starts school next year and still hates being apart from dh and i, Dh was a SAHD but has now returned to work

Im sure when i pick her up at 4pm she will be fine.

[maisemor]

Ahhh, so she is Daddy's little princess whom she has well and truly wrapped around her little finger .

You just wait he will have to pay (literally speaking) when she gets older and he can't say no to her and she wants this, that, the most expensive dress etc. etc.

[Marne]

lol, yes daddy's little pricess,mummy is the tough mean one

[maisemor]

Well you are a mean mummy if you put her in nursery 93 times a week, seriously only kidding .

[Marne]

I feel alot better, thanks for making me LOL

[juuule]

I'd have kept her home