DD2 is 4.8 years and has just started in the Reception class at school. She loves school and can't wait to get there; even wanting to go at weekends!
But just before last Christmas, her playgroup teachers said that she wasn't really relating very well to other children. She didn't like taking in turns and didn't really talk or play with other children unless it was on her terms. She seemed to be quite happy playing by herself if the one friend she has, wasn't there. She also didn't move on with games e.g. one thing playgroup said was that she'd be doing some jumping along a line, go and do something else, and then go back to the jumping along the line. (I don't really know how she's supposed to "progress" on from that and just think that she likes repetitive things and routine). She also doesn't really listen to instructions, or listens to the first part but forgets/loses interest/takes no notice of the 2nd part.
I ended up going to meetings at playgroup, with the Special Educational Needs Co-ordinators from playgroup and school. The first meeting at the beginning of this year, they decided that they'd tackle this by playing board games (where she had to take it in turns with other children). They even gave her an Individual Education Plan. About 3 months later I went to a 2nd meeting to review whether any of this had worked, and it turned out it hadn't. She still wasn't listening fully to instructions, although I think she was taking it in turns more.
Yesterday, the Educational Needs lady was there to see how DD2 has settled in to school. She wrote a report to say that nothing's really changed from when she was at playgroup. DD still doesn't really listen to instructions fully and during PE yesterday, preferred to look at things in the PE store rather than do pairwork with other children.
She doesn't seem to have any other problems. She's fine with doing work on her own, writes her name, does pictures, knows letters of the alphabet and numbers etc. She just seems to not like playing/working with other children, but is able to do this when an adult helps.
I wondered whether anyone else has had this and whether it sorts itself out. At the back of my mind is that she is only 4.8, and that something will "click" sooner or later that she has to work with other children at school.
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Should I be concerned about DD2 (sorry, it's a bit long!)?
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petunia · 26/09/2007 11:35
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