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17 month old cries and screams so much(2 Posts)
Am really struggling with my 17 month old he cries, screams and whinges so much it's driving me insane Is this normal
Behaviour for his age?
Hi there, I just wanted to offer reassurance (if this is reassuring at all!!) That you are not alone! My little boy is 21ms now and I know ppl talk about terrible 2s so perhaps I'm in for more when that comes along but honestly I feel like he's already been through it! The 6-8weeks around 17-18ms were honestly the most stressful ever! He was so screamy whiney and constant with his tantrums and I was so exhausted and upset as I was convinced he'd undergone a sudden personality transplant and this was just him now! I won't lie he is still having tantrums and getting frustrated but honestly nothing like it was around that time so I can offer some help that it gets better. I found with hindsight that a lot of it was connected to the fact he was going through a lot of change with a bit of a growth spurt, speech was accelerating, and he'd just dropped down to one nap and that took some adjustment plus what felt like constant teething and or colds! I don't know if any of these factors apply to you but I do notice with him a direct correlation between phases of development and tantrums and whining. I actually find the whining harder than tantrums as tantrums are finite but the whining is constant like noise torture isn't it. If this is any help at all I found getting outside helped me. It gave him stuff to focus on, meant i could just see and interact with other things, and for some fresh air. That and really really making the most of any down time. I used to end up doing so many chores in his nap time and would end up feeling robbed of it. At that stage I just took a decision to do whatever it was even if house was a state just to give myself a break when he slept. So reading, TV, napping myself, phone call with my mum etc...feeling recharged myself was so much more important than anything else and I found it helped me be more tolerant
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