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2 year old should I be worried(8 Posts)
My 2 year old 3 month girl has about 10 words at a stretch. When we go to toddler groups she clings to me and is very tearful. At home she notices every noise and can be quite fearful for example if we go for a walk or play outside. She is very clingy but at home she will play with her toys and sit to read a book. I’m just not sure if it’s normal to be this clingy and jumpy I guess?
Fearful/clingy to this extent does sound unusual. Can you think of anything that could have caused this?
Language-wise? How is her receptive language e.g. if you have her attention and ask her to point to something /pass you something can she do it?
If I were you, I’d speak to a health visitor and ask for advice. They see lots of children and can give you an idea of if yours is within the normal spectrum.
Is there anything in her life that could be causing her to be this afraid?
I can’t think of anything traumatic that has happened maybe one event when she was about 18 months.
She does seem to understand what I am saying and can point. Health visitor hasn’t been any help says she is fine. Private speech therapist can’t take us on at the moment but said speech wise she should get there and to give her more time.
I can’t think why she would be jumpy and quite whingy although that could be an age thing.
I can relate to this! My LB is now 3 and didn't say a word until he was 2. At 2 years 6 months he probably had a vocal of about 20ish words. At 2 years 9 months he had grommets fitted in his ears and now at 3 years 2 months his speech is incredible! I cannot believe how he's come on. I spent so many nights crying over autisim fears, I feel like I lost months of his life through worry and disbelief. He has always been very sensitive to noise and prone to ear Infections and then we found out he has glue ear so that's why we had the operation. I went to a speech drop in clinic who advised he did have a speech delay which the ear issue contributed towards, but didn't create. Before his speech developed he was also very clingy and shy and unsettled around others but then when he started talking he's just completely changed! I hope this reassures you. If I was you I would definitely have his ears checked with him being sensitive to noise! But the speech will happen. If you have any concerns go to a speech drop in clinic and they might be able to arrange some home visits (we had these and they were amazing!).
I would get a hearing test to rule out hearing issues. things like glue ear can impact hearing.
can she consistently follow instructions?
how does she communicate with you and tell you what she wants?
Thank you so much I have just made an appointment with the Gp to ask for a heating test. I phoned my health visitor as well and she agreed a hearing test would be a good idea. I would say yes she can follow instructions such as put the nappy in the bin but sometimes she wouldn’t be able to follow the instruction put the pyjamas in the washing machine.
She generally points and whines a lot, she will really only say yes and no.
I would say yes she can follow instructions such as put the nappy in the bin but sometimes she wouldn’t be able to follow the instruction put the pyjamas in the washing machine
may be useful to get a good assessment of her receptive language too to see if she is behind there too. that is the kind of instruction my child without language issues was able to follow at 13/14 months (not sure what she understood at 2.3 years though but it was definitely more complex than that). I would want to check that there are no major delays in her receptive language. If just the spoken language is delayed, then things often sort themselves but delays in understanding are a different alltogether.
Thank you I think I may have to get her assessed privately.