Hey people.
After some advice please. I’d like to start by saying my MIL has my little boy whilst I work one day a week. She’s great and helps us by having him which I really appreciate. She couldn’t wait for a grandchild and I feel that no matter what I do or how much she sees him, it’s never enough.
Since he was born, she has always been quite overbearing (staying for hours on end or commenting on things, also calls him HER BABY) She often uses situations to her advantage putting her needs to see him first. She is overly excitable around him (majorly!) and we are trying to create a call (but fun) upbringing. She used to sing and bang on the table when he’s eating as an example which made him do the same, when mentioning this in the past she’s made sarcastic and quite hurtful comments to me (which I haven’t appreciated). It’s all become a bit much and despite speaking to her nicely about how I feel some things have not changed.
The reason I’m asking for advice is because my little boy is usually fine when people leave the house (including me and my husband) or when we go home from friends/relatives. BUT over the past few weeks if we leave my in laws or they leave mine (or even when my MIL puts the phone down after speaking to my son) he was a melt down. Or he follows her to the toilet and bangs on the door crying nanny!!!! He throws himself on the floor and cries. This isn’t a ‘phase’ as he doesn’t do this with anyone else. My gut tells me that where she is so over the top and excitable this is having an effect on him. I don’t know what to do? Say something or not? I don’t want to upset or cause any hard feelings but I’m not prepared for other behaviour to have this impact. Any advice is appreciated.
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Mother in law
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Mum2018G · 20/01/2020 20:53
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