Anger/emotional outbursts

[Fredsmum82]

Hi all!
My nearly 7 yo DS quite often has outbursts - sometimes he gets angry and then he gets emotionally distressed. It's like he gets himself so worked up he can't calm down. It can be over the smallest thing like leaving his Nanna's to come home or if I say we're going out and he doesn't want to etc. Also, if someone trys to change or add in something to a role play game he gets really angry/frustrated but he'll often tell me none of his friends will play his games but he has to play their games if he wants to play with them at playtime so I think that's the reason for when this happens. I just don't know how to handle it and I've been doing it wrong and feel like a bad Mum for not dealing with it sooner! I've often threatened to take his toys away if he continues or I'll say I've had enough and send him to his room - one particular day when it's been a stressful day then he's had an outburst I've even said he'll end up at the naughty children's school - of course as soon as I said it I massively regretted it!!!! I just can't make him see sense, that it wastes time and energy and we could just be getting on with x,y and z! Should I take him to the Drs in case he has something I don't know - ADHD, autism etc or is this normal for kids to learn to deal with their emotions until 7/8 years old? I'm really struggling and don't know what to do! I've spoken to the school who says he's amazing and has lots of friends! I've even recently asked them to keep am eye on him at playtime to make sure he's playing with his friends and they told me he was even though he'll quite often says he has no friends to play with - help me please :(

[Marleyj8]

Hello, your son sounds like he could be my son. Very similar. Can't control or regulate emotions. Problems at school. We've had him assessed privately and he has been diagnosed as having high functioning autism and PDA.
I've also said things to him in despair and felt awful about afterwards. Please don't be too hard on yourself.

[Marleyj8]

Speak to your GP and Senco at school, they can get a referral to CAMHS.