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Daughter being bitten at pre school.(4 Posts)
Hello everyone, I’m just in need of some advice on a subject that I’m entirely sure on how to go about.
My daughter 3 loves her pre school she goes 2 mornings and 1 full day a week. In the past 2 weeks I’ve had to sign 4 incident forms as my daughter has been bitten on the chest on the thigh and on her finger by a girl in her class the same little girl hit her in her face as well.
The girls that look after my daughter are fantastic and I can’t imagine how hard it must be keeping an eye on 30 kids but this is now resulting in my daughter being prettified to go to her pre school which is so unlike her. The girls parents have been informed but it just seems to keep happening. What route do I need to go down to ensure this stops and would you class this as bullying as it’s only my daughter that is being picked on. Please no nasty comments I just need a bit of advice.
i wouldn't say it was bullying, that requires pre-meditation, and at 3yrs old, the biter will be lashing out spontaneously, not planning attacks on your child particularly. I also expect other children are being hurt too, but you won't get told that.
What do do? hope the staff are vigilant?
I doubt it could be classified as bullying - is a three year old able to bully? I wouldn't have though so. It could just be a case that your daughter is playing with the exact toys that the other girl likes and hence maybe the conflict. Not sure what could be done - I would have though it would be the carers looking after the class taking a proactive approach in monitoring the situation and reacting in a positive manner when an incident is about to happen. Most nurseries have a 1:8 ratio for 3 year olds and I assume is class/activity led so I would be quite concerned is these incidents are not witnessed by the carers or if they are not sure what happened (specially if it is happening multiple times)....
Thank you I appreciate your messages.
This has been going for a while now and I’ve actually seen it with my own eyes when picking my daughter up. My daughter went to go say goodbye to her friends and the little girl that’s pushed her and bit her and this little girl hit my daughter in her face when all she did was say goodbye. The parents of this child know what’s happened and surely they would want to resolve it and apologise. I know for a fact it is just my daughter that this is happening to as I’ve spoken to other parents and have friends that work within the pre school therefore I want to know why my daughter is the one that getting picked on when all she’s trying to do is be friends with this little girl...