Hello,
I wondered if there’s anyone out there with experience of their child being very sensitive and seemingly hard to calm and hard to reassure (from birth)?
My 3 month old daughter frequently appears to be very disturbed & upset/almost angry by new surroundings or changes to her environment- she gets upset/angry quite easily and is extremely hard to reassure& calm (BFeeding works but I’m not sure I like the idea of using it to quieten her or reassure her if I can improve my bond with her or better understand what is happening as well).
(If relevant, pregnancy was problem free as was her birth- a quick 90mins and she came out in the sac, in a hospital birthpool - with no issues, no meds)
Once she wakes from sleeping, or becomes even slightly on edge whilst awake things escalate very quickly to extremely loud and upsetting screams - without exception - holding her close and reassuring her does nothing and I’m worried about her connection to us/the family and how happy she is.
When not crying, ironically she is the biggest smiler. She will giggle and smile constantly until something bothers her.
Where car rides for my son (now 2) were more often than not relaxing for him (he of course had moments he was upset..) - for my daughter it is absolute hysterics from the moment she is placed in a seat (we have tried the lay-flat and regular seats). Even if I can calm her somehow and she sleeps, she wakes quickly and is so cross it is so upsetting.
She is seemingly inflexible with her bedtime & bedtime routine, but wakes every 30-90 minutes until approx 4/5am... and demands to feed- no other comforting or help to sleep is of interest or works to help her.
My son is the complete opposite- he had colic symptoms for a few months but even then he was easy to comfort and help to sleep. Less smiley but easy going..
I’m concerned my daughter is not happy and I don’t know how much the stress of her crying affects her. Is it normal/common?? The Gp is not remotely interested and has no input or advice. Could it be colic??
Does anyone’s child have a similar temperament and if so- do you have any advice?
If it’s simply her temperament and we need to work around that to make her feel safe and accept it for her of course that’s fine, but I feel she could be a lot happier if only I knew how to calm her or understand what it means developmentally.
Has anyone been to see a developmental Pediatrician to help (better understand) their baby- with something perhaps as minor as this, or is this a waste of time?
Thank you so much in advance for any advice or thoughts Xx
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