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Should this behaviour have consequences? 22 month old(4 Posts)
My 22 mo DD is genuinely a delight most of the time, she loves to be helpful and if left to her own devices recently can often be found tidying up her toys (which is great as I’m in third trimester and struggling to get down on the floor). However, when she’s tired or really excited, her behaviour is not always great, as is to be expected. If she’s really tired she will hit or head butt me and DH (and sometimes her elderly granny) in the face. She is always told no, sometimes explained ‘that hurts mummy/daddy’, and then attention redirected. So far this has not stopped it reoccurring. Obviously DH and I are more resilient than Granny! We deal with it at Granny’s house by taking her off Granny’s knee. Also, she will wilfully get all her toys/books and throw them around the room/throw food and crockery off her high chair. If she does this when she is excited and not tired I explain she’s made a mess and ask her to clean it up, which she does. If she is tired this does not work so I just remove her from the situation. Should I be doing anything more to stop these behaviours or do I just wait until she’s older to have a little bit more understanding? She is very verbal and can understand when other people are sad or hurt.
22 mints is still a bit early in general but because you are in the 3rd trimester you have to sort this situation now because addressing at the same time of new sibling would be a disaster.
Hitting is wrong . Don’t use too many words, they don’t assimilate long sentence. Day this is wrong, it hurts, you are not allowed to do. And if she does , put her int the playpen of you have or a portable cot.
The second she starts trashing toys or meal, take her away and leave her on a step or on your bedroom if io is baby proof. Anywhere would do as long as she has no toys books or anyone interacting with her.
I agree with pp. Remove from situation with a quick "we do not hit". No interaction. Distraction is only good as a preventative measure, if you can see the cues that poor behaviour is brewing. If you use it as a response to poor behaviour you're essentially rewarding the behaviour with attention and/or something fun to do.
Great, thanks for the suggestions