I am finding parenting my DS2 increasingly difficult and depressing. I would really appreciate any insights from others who have similar experiences. We have an older DS (11) who is autistic - Aspergers if the diagnosis was still made. He can be very introverted and anxious which DS2 homes in on and he can be can be very angry and violent towards him. This creates a horrible atmosphere in the family as we are always walking on eggshells waiting for the next explosion from DS2. To be fair DS1 does sometimes wind DS2 up but the reaction he gets is way out of proportion. School runs are a particular nightmare which often degenerate into violence at the school gate which is humiliating for me and damaging for both boys.
In his relationship with me he is either very babyish - calling me mumma and talking in a baby voice, or angry. This evening he yelled at me because his dinner was taking too long to be prepared. I was a "bad mumma" who "never does anything". Once he snaps out of it he will sing "I love mumma she's the best" on repeat for ages. I really try to engage with him but, to be honest, he is very difficult to like at the moment.
I feel like a terrible mother but also so defeated. Neither of them want to do family activities, we missed the end of term celebrations and often have to leave things early because tempers are rising.
We are waiting for a stage one assessment but he is so different from his brother I doubt a diagnosis of autism will be the result. I suspect some of his anger may be hunger related, he usually calms after eating.
He was such a loving happy child until about four years ago, I hate to let him down but I don't know what to do.
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Concerned about 9yr old DS
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Razzlefrazzle · 25/07/2019 19:34
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